@melissaluvscats I'm in Omaha. We probably already know each other. ;)
@josefinastrummer Ha. Yeah. You're probably right. :) It's just a bummer that we end up fighting fights like this when we've also popularly agreed that people doing what they want with their own bodies and labeling themselves in a way they themselves find accurate is A-ok, too? People have to extricate themselves from the Jerk-Circus in their own way and I don't think it helps our Overall-Jerk-Circus-Escaping-Goals to tell someone she's doing it the wrong way.
Look at all this energy we're wasting deciding whether Scarlet should get to call herself a virgin or not, when we could be joining forces to make sure all teenage girls have such aware and self-empowering sexual experiences. Let's keep our eyes on the prize, Sisters!
The fact that the term is so subjective seems, to me, all the more reason that no one should be telling her she's wrong. She admitted that she hadn't done her research on the magical bonding hormones, she knows that some people are going to consider her not-a-virgin; she doesn't need us to educate her-- especially when she's made no claims about how anyone else should manage a sex life.
@lasso tabasco Or maybe we don't have to police how other people define their sexual behavior?
Oil pulling. Who has tried it? What oil did you use? How long did you do it? Did you sit and meditate while you swished like some sources advise, or did you do other stuff? Does it have to be every day? Is it worth it? I trust the pin.
Good God. Just reading this made my stomach fill with acid. Thank goodness for my toothless union which ensures all of us here are paid equally terribly.
@Third Wave Housewife This is a reply to this whole thread in general, and I hate to be abstractly angry when contrary is asking for practical advice not diatribe, but HOW IN THE HOLY HELL are horrific cramping, hormonal fucked-upedness or latex bags our only options in 2012? Every time I think about this I get so grrrr!
@melmuu Yes, absolutely. Sadbeautiful how 'fear of love' recurs so many times.
How great are the comments under that article?