I am actually three raccoons standing on top of each other.
@adorable-eggplant The UU church is, in my experience at least 80% committed atheists. I am not being hyperbolic, it is literally made up of mostly atheists. Also, we were doing gay marriages before it was cool! We're not totally without issues, since, as a church where half the congregation is likely to have graduate degrees we're not without some ingrained classism, but we're pretty crunchy and we're really, really trying.
@HitchedUpKids I'm sorry, but my immediate thought is find new friends and separate yourself from this guy for a while (my rule of thumb is at least 1/2 the time of the crush). This is a really emotionally bad situation and it's only going to be fixed by emotional and temporal distance. As long as you're emotionally close to him as a friend part of you is going to think you can trade up to more-than-a-friend, and without a hard reset brought on by not seeing him for a while, and allowing you to develop into different people with subtly different turn-ons and turner-onners, that is never going to go away and will probably get worse. You're heading towards a situation where you or he is going to get hurt/do something hurtful without meaning to and that is no good, and I'm sorry, I wish I could tell you basically anything else but I can't.
Also you're not a loser! You just have good taste and ill luck.
Here is a tumblr full of cats hugging stuff: http://catshuggingstuff.tumblr.com/
@cosmia There were a lot of times when the editorial justification for things was "I have my own website, so fuck it, HAVE A LANA DEL RAY/EDGAR ALLEN POE MASHUP ILLUSTRATED IN MS PAINT" I feel like now there's an actual thought out editorial standard and it's killed most of the magic for me.
@Passion Fruit I found most of my current guy friends (and other friends) through the UU church's young adults group, which for obvious reasons skews very very liberal. My impression is that they're pretty cool in the ways you're talking about, although as a male, only-technically-a-racial-minority I may very well have blind spots.
@adorable-eggplant (my first attempt at posting this got eaten, fingers crossed it works this time)
Ok, my theater has a showing at 10! Getting excited! In anticipation, here is some artwork depicting the complex social issues portrayed in the film:
@Emby I was just hearing about this on 99% invisible! It has such a cool story!
@SarahP Go double or nothing at the other place (and make yourself feel desirable): "Hello, other college, I am am looking forward to teaching your interesting course and feel I have a lot to contribute. However, I already have an offer for 4 courses and X money from the first college, and I don't feel I can do justice to both. Can you offer me three other courses and/or at least X money, enabling me to turn down the first college? If not, I regretfully will not be able to teach at other place at this time. Please keep me in mind for future offers because you know you want me, oh yes you do, but you can't have any of this unless you treat me right, like the full time steadily employed girl I am. Love, SarahP"
@adorable-eggplant I am super good at stress-sleeping (unless I really need sleep, in which case I magically lose the ability).