@wearitcounts This is great! GOOD FOR YOU!
I did something similar - sent a dude packing who had been making me feel like crap for months (although in my story, he left my NYE party early to go out with his new girlfriend (they are not exclusive, even though she wants to be, just FYI I'm not a totally horrible person)).
The very worst thing about guys like that is how they turn it on when you withdraw or withhold. Oh, like you're going to care NOW? When I've been through hell wanting you to care? TOO LATE. You made me feel like garbage and I am not garbage.
The second worse it the defensiveness. This guy actually said "you know, I just have to say - people get hurt, it's a natural part of human interaction." As if when he hurts people, it's like gravity or the wind. Dude you are a person with responsibilities, not a force of nature.
@wearitcounts Long and inappropriate storytelling is always enjoyable! And heck, doesn't it feel good to be in a good place with something that was formerly shitty? Here's hoping you continue to take 2013 by the balls (heh. heh. heh.)!
I've resolved to continue dating all important documents as whatever/whatever/12 until around this time next year. I am succeeding admirably.
I might resolve (maybe) to try to go on one date per month. I hate first dates and online dating, but then I realized that it is hard to meet someone if you don't...you know...meet new people.
So maybe I will do that. But just one date per month, because dating is exhausting and I need energy for enjoying the rest of my totally awesome life.
Double oh-yeah, 6. Don't accidentally buy nonfat Greek yogurt again. This stuff tastes like nonsense.
My resolution is to stop reading Internet comments, except on The Hairpin.
I used to have a hair dresser who resolved each year to read the complete works of a specific author, such as Charles Dickens or Shakespeare. She was awesome.
@everyone I'm so happy it's getting lighter tooooo! I'm looking forward to the day when it's not dark when I get out of work.
@adorable-eggplant Interesting…I hadn't thought of it as caregiver fatigue because I usually associate that with taking care of someone who is ill, but there are a lot of similarities. We both do take breaks from the drama. And the holidays were good because while there was some drama on his side, my family is very easygoing and fun and non-drama, so it was good for both of us to be surrounded by them.
I'm open about my depression because while I was deep in it I closed myself off to everyone and didn't talk about it. Once I started climbing out I realized how much of a mistake that was because it was a barrier to getting healthy. I also realized that talking about it might help others who are dealing with similar feelings, even if it's nothing more than knowing they're not alone. Plus, there's still a stigma to mental illness, and I figure the more people talk about it the more that stigma will melt away.
@wearitcounts Thanks. :) It really is a pretty amazing relationship. We both had horrendous marriages so we learned a lot about what matters most in a relationship and we really appreciate each other. It's certainly not perfect, but we've got the communication thing down, which helps us through the rough patches. Everyone who says communication is the most important thing is SO RIGHT.
@smidge I hadn't heard of it but it sounds interesting. We've talked about how we do different things for each other, and you know what's funny? We both feel like we're the one who doesn't do as much. Not in such a way that we don't feel like we deserve each other, but in such a way that we want to do more. And that helps both of us!
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@wearitcounts One last one: Nick Waterhouse
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@wearitcounts Allah-Las. Veronica Falls.