@wearitcounts I should also add that my inner wrist hurt pretty badly at the VERY TOP, where it was right on top of my wrist bones. The rest isn't terrible, so if you shift down an inch and a half, it won't be so painful.
@SarcasticFringehead This is true! It scabs over and itches more than it hurts afterward. The pain is very fleeting compared to, say, a piercing, in my opinion.
@iceberg The design sounds awesome! My advice for that is to go for something not TOO heavily-meaning-based, as meaning gets mutable and slippery over time, and something that will aesthetically continue to please you for a long, long time. You know. Forever and all that.
I have a detailed tattoo on my inner wrist. It did hurt pretty badly, and I'm very tolerant of pain. A simple outline there is not bad at all (have a less detailed one on other inner wrist), but the shading is a bitch. They take a flat thing covered in tiny needles and basically rub on your skin until enough ink is in there. It's... not pleasant. And they wipe it down with a paper towel every so often. So, also not pleasant.
That being said, it's my favorite tattoo, and I would totally do it again. It's a great spot for it, and the pain is character building. Go forth and tattoo!
ETA: That was a fairly simplistic description of a very detailed artistic process that I in no way meant to belittle. I do not know how to tattoo and I imagine it's far more complicated than the way I described it; I just was trying to get across what it feels like. Like a tiny bed of needles scratching at the same spot over, and over. And over.
@frumious bandersnatch I'm a lot like you. I love hanging out with friends and Doing Things, but I need me-time in a major way. Reading is great; cooking works for me also. I learned how to make my own spicy pickles this year and that was a productive project done during me-time that turned into gifts for family/friends.
I've also been toying with the idea of taking myself out to the movies when I want to see something spur of the moment. I feel like that could be very liberating and enjoyable.
@wee_ramekin Thanks :D 2013 - The year I stopped tolerating bullshit.
@When robot unicorns attack Thank you, and right back atcha! Defensiveness in that kind of situation is just... unacceptable. I am allowed to have feelings about the way you treat me. You might not like them, but they are valid and they are mine and I don't need you to help me define them, thanks VERY much. Hurrah for self-advocacy!
@wee_ramekin Haha, hoo boy. Well, since this is a safe-space for long-and-inappropriate-story-telling (I love The Hairpin so much for that):
There's a guy that's been a romantic interest of mine for the past 6 months or so, but has been playing with my head and generally treating me terribly. I finally called him on it a few weeks ago and just basically told him "the way you treat me makes me feel shitty, and I don't want or need any response from you, I just think you should know that." He tried to respond in a defensive sort of way, but I pretty much just shut him down.
Three weeks pass, and I receive a package in the mail from Amazon. It's gift wrapped for the holidays, and it is a detachable showerhead (this is a joke we had between us months ago, that he promised to buy me one for Hanukkah if I promised to send him pictures of me using it). I ignore the gift and the text message he sends me on the 25th.
Last Thursday, he gets in touch that he's going to come to the NYE party I'm hosting that I'd invited him to months ago that he had since been flip-flopping about and refused to commit to. I reach deep into my inner calm and tell him fine, whatever, fully expecting him to just bail at the last second, and realizing in that moment that I truly no longer cared. He does actually show up, and of course, it's New Year's Eve and we're drinking and the sex was always good between us so we end up in bed together. But I'm fine with that, as now everything is on MY terms. We have sex until I'm satisfied and then when I get tired, I stop, even though he hasn't finished. He asks me to head downtown and I refuse, pointing out he hasn't done that for me. He proceeds to do so, and I enjoy, but afterward tell him I'm very sorry, but I don't really want to just the same, and I'm going to sleep. And that if I'm up to it, we can have another round of regular sex in the morning. The end. He tries to get to me by talking about My Feelings For Him and I tell him that there's no point in having that discussion anymore, as I no longer have said feelings, so we should just enjoy this thing for what it is and then get on with our lives.
And in the morning we had sex again and he WORKED for it. And then I wished him well in life and sent him on his way. It felt GREAT.
(And I realize I switched tenses a few times in that story but it would take a long time to figure out which one I want to use and then edit accordingly so I am going to leave the story as such and hope it is nonetheless enjoyable.)
I resolved (and I've already done this an an EXTREMELY satisfying way New Year's Eve and Day) to Take Back My Power in my romantic relationships.
Also to type properly with capital letters and such because I've always been too lazy even though I have my BA in English. Unacceptable, apologies all around.
@crango @vunder THANK YOUUUU
@wearitcounts Also, retinol is a miracle product, as it moisturizes and reduces/prevents wrinkles as well as clearing up breakouts. Seriously worth the $20+.
@Inkling I do not wash my face. I only use gentle oil-free makeup removing clothes (like Ponds or Neutrogena's) at the end of the day, and use this really amazing retinol cream before bed. In the morning, I shower, and again, do not wash but just rinse my face with water, and then use BB cream or moisturizer with SPF for the day. This has DRAMATICALLY balanced out and improved my skin, which used to be very breakout-prone.