@Jaya @Angry Panda yeah that's how i meant it - that saying "ban dowries" is like saying "ban men," in that it is obviously not possible but just a really nice dream - i did peace corps in a country where dowries were similarly bankrupty and terrible and oppressive to every member of the woman's family, i'm not flippant about stuff like this and am still negotiating the way that Blog Life means coming off & being read that way sometimes
I'm Canadian but Black Friday has become a thing here? Even though it's not Thanksgiving and nobody has the day off work to shop? Anyway my major score was a Ralph Lauren goose down duvet marked down to $179 from $500. I've been looking for a reasonably priced, good quality 100% down duvet for ages (protip: they are expensive as fuck) so I couldn't pass it up. Oh my gosh, you guys, it is SO FLUFFY I COULD DIE.
@titsgrande How is this done?
I lived and worked in Prague for 10 months without knowing anyone going there. Best 10 months of my life so far.
Makes me want to do something like that again!
well i'm glad someone got charged. with a charge that seems appropriate.
my god, this poor girl, and her poor family. the conflicting reports are so distressing. if she was dead at 4, then what the hell happened in the hours between her crash and her death? and through the door? jesus.
Obviously there are a million questions unanswered, but putting aside the shooter, what is with the police claiming that the body was dumped elsewhere and then changing their story? I just can't get over the police apparently going to great lengths to not only protect this man, but also actually tampering with facts. I just hope that McBride's memory will be treated with dignity during what will likely be a media circus, though my guess is that is hoping for too much, given the spotlight focus on her blood alcohol level and not her thoroughly preventable death.
@SexySadie I agree that it's a cop-out to say that they didn't consider the racial aspect at all, because I think that's the whole point: to present the stereotypical depiction of women in hip-hop videos in a different context so as to heighten how ridiculously offensive they look. But if she truly didn't consider it, then that does defeat the whole purpose, and calls her real agenda into question.
@Interim I do appreciate your response. My point was not to shut down marginalized voices, but to suggest that by insinuating that "X can't comment on Y because of Z," all we're doing is poisoning the well, which in turn implies that some perspectives are more valid than others, which is antithetical to the nature of an open dialogue. Your point regarding the racial dynamic of the video is valid, but to condemn the whole thing because of that one element strikes me as a bit myopic. We can't get hung up on criticizing each other; too much internal strife will only delay the movement and distract from our common goals.
@Interim Oh wow, really? The director said that they were 'blind' to the race of the dancers during casting? Because seriously I had been thinking that the racial element was PART of the satire, and that it was executed poorly because it wasn't obviously satirical enough. (I guess I was giving too much credit here....)
I actually would have really liked the video if it seemed that the back-up dancers were 'in on the joke' of how misogynistic and racist these types of videos are. Like, some more eye-rolling at the white dude showing them how to twerk, or a fun little 'outtake' at the end of Lily and the dancers laughing on stage or something. Also could have done with fewer close-ups of asses/crotches - the first few close-ups would have proved the point, in my book.
But yeah, if nobody actually thought about the racial implications of the video, then it's just a total fail. Yikes.
YAY so glad you're back AHP! A new SoCH and 2 episodes of Parks and Rec tonight. Good day.
@klemay You didn't need to spell it out. And both his Facebook name and photo made it clear he was white and male, so I'm not sure that needed to be spelled out, originally, either. We disagree on how to hold productive conversations on stuff like racism and sexism with people of different races and gender. No biggie.