@SarahP ...and that pink wasn't gendered as feminine until later in the 20th century than Gatsby was written?
We all know, right, that the "sperm" is short for "spermaceti," and that Melville and Ishmael definitely knew the stuff they were practically swimming in wasn't actually sperm?
(Not to be that obnoxious pedant; I get that this is a joke! But still. Not really sperm.)
The first poem I think of when I think of Elizabeth Bishop is “One Art,” and for writing that poem I think she has earned a million dusty dry poems about Maine. (But I totally understand what you’re saying—poetry isn’t the art form I feel this way about, but there are some I have similar feelings for.)
So cool! I always appreciate jellyfish coverage on the hairpin.
80% Wasting time on a game on my phone instead of doing my work
20% Buying iced tea from the swank cafe downstairs.
@SmartCookie I do this too!
@wee_ramekin That's exactly what I meant, thank you for saying it better than me.
LW4, I can't tell whether you actually want to be friends with your ex. If not, like AQC says, that is okay. People don't have to be friends with their exes, even though there is a little more pressure to be in the queer community.
But if you do want to be friends and are just weirded out by the whole "but you broke up with me because I'm quiet" thing: there are a lot of traits that I don't mind in my friends, and don't dislike about my friends, that I do not want in a partner. For example, I have some friends who aren't very communicative about their needs, which, for the sake of hanging out and doing stuff together, is totally fine. But I know that for my Partner, I want someone who will be very straightforward about their needs. Similarly, your ex might know that ze needs someone who is gregarious and willing to be thrown into (potentially awkward) social situations often as a partner, but wouldn't require that of/inflict that on a friend.
This was a long way to say: what we look for in a partner is different from what we look for in a friend, and so if you want to be friends with your ex, that's okay too!
@Florence I really like your "amateur assessment" and totally agree with it. The kinds of things I fantasize about have almost no connection to the things that turn me on in bed/life... and that surprised me when I first started having sex. I have specific alone-time turn-ons and specific sexy-time turn-ons.