@Brooke Shelby Biggs@facebook Bread and roses by all means, but the problem, I would say, is that Eve Ensler is stuffing rose plants into the oven and claiming they make bread. They don't, and they don't make good roses, either.
You are a smart smart lady. I find what you say subtle, incisive and sceptical without being ungenerous. I too want to like EE and just feel uneasy. Specifically: as a feminist I of course want control of my vagina, and understand that tragically, appallingly, vaginas are sometimes where violence and inustice against women gets meted out. But I really don't like the positive version of this essentialism that says 'love your vagina: feel that it's your essence, it's *you*.' I love my vagina, it's great, but it's not me, it's just a part of me, and to suggest otherwise is insulting in its own way.
Also does anyone enjoy the fact that the spam on this article is about plumbing!? SOZ
By Blushingflwr on Ask a Psychic
@Das Rad I think there is something to be said for interviews that accept people's experiences as being their experiences, whether or not there is objective proof of those experiences. There have also been interviews on here with clergy and practitioners of various religions, and those interviews accept that the interviewee believes they have the connection with their deity they say they do.
In terms of being a charlatan - if someone wants to pay a self-professed psychic money for a reading and use it as a way to guide their choices, I don't think there's anything necessarily wrong with that. A psychic who is always predicting gloom or diagnosing curses that only she can lift is clearly a con artist who is out to make a buck, but sometimes people just want someone to tell them that things are going to work out, or to take a chance on something they really want, and if the person they turn to is a psychic, fine. I have friends who do their own tarot readings, not necessarily as reliable oracles of the future, but rather as ways to find out how they feel about certain choices in their lives.
You don't have to believe that Ms. Bruckmann (or anyone else) is psychic, but that doesn't mean it can't be interesting to hear her talk about it as a fact.
@karion God I do love a gardenia.
I miss your Hairpin column/cyber-face/general wit around here so much, Jolie!
Woah-ho there, part of the answer to LW3 is kind of harsh: "Frankly, I'm not sure you maintaining a relationship with your parents is actually for the best right now, because it tells them that you're willing to put up with their transphobia and misgendering of your partner, and thus that their hurtful words and actions have no real consequences."
Why not recommend that LW3 send over some articles and have some open conversations with them? The parents are clearly uncomfortable and need a lot of guidance. I'm assuming they would even be too uncomfortable to Google this topic, and to be honest, I doubt they'd know what to look for.
I wholeheartedly disagree with forfeiting (even temporarily) one's relationship with their parents. It's not like one day they'll wake up and say "okay okay we love you both, come back!" Instead they'll think the worst, and it'll fester, they'll blame your S.O. and hate them MORE, and your negative energy will fester, and it'll be 10x worse in a year. I'm obvs not a therapist, but I would think the best thing to do would be to be honest, and say things like "your words and actions are hurtful because it makes me feel X; here is how you should refer to X" etc.
Even by trying to hash it out with them, it should at least show that you are an adult capable of caring for yourself and having responsible relationships, which will in turn allow them to trust you and trust your choice in people.
I'm going to go ahead and defend the person who asked the weight loss question and the author for selecting/answering it.
But first some caveats/recognition:
1. Yes, we absolutely live in a fat-phobic, fat shaming society.
2. This same society values thinness above all things regardless of physical health.
3. For people with body image/weight issues this is a particularly sensitive subject and the discussion of weight and weight loss can be triggering.
I respect and recognize all these things. HOWEVER.
If someone wants to lose weight in a healthy way that is meaningful to them, let them lose weight. Yes, they could be motivated by truly unreasonable beauty standards or could be doing it for purely superficial reasons but no one should be unhappy with their body for any reason. And no one should have to accept one body type over another for themselves simply because it's a more radical act. As long as you are healthy, you do you. Don't preach, don't judge, don't be a jerk and you'll be fine.
@Alli525 Where would one find these alleged "fleece-lined leggings"?
@questingbeast Hahaha I was reading Florence's comment thinking "should I disclose my gangbang fantasy?". And there you were! Yeah, I fantasize about degrading gangbangs that I'm 99.9% sure I would really hate in real life.
By questingbeast on Boy-Crazy But Curious, Dating While Disabled, and Introducing Parents to Your "New Norm"
@Florence Thinking about stuff you're not doing in real life seems to me like the whole POINT of fantasy-time. For me, it's all gangbangs, which I couldn't even begin to be bothered to do in real life. (Seems like there'd be a lot of admin.)