LW3, try to meet more nonmonogamous people in general; I think then you'll find a lot of these questions are easier answered (or don't even come up because everyone makes the right assumptions). If you live in or near a major city, there are probably some meetups you could find and attend--even if you don't click with any particular people there, you can ask them what bars/clubs/dance nights they frequent where you could also go meet cool people who are likely to understand/not question your situation.
I am dying from the cuteness.
Nailed it with how it feels to admit to liking Tori Amos. (I DO LIKE BOTH, OK?)
@wryredhead Every relationship has different dynamics, and different people like different things. The fact that she straight-out says that her husband calling the shots is "part of the fantasy" means that it IS okay for them and is something they've communicated about.
I love Henry James (and often find myself defending him at length to anyone who will listen to me talk about Henry James), and I LOVE this review.
I remember not being impressed with that adaptation, though.
@Statham Another OKC success here! I got the normal creepy/practically automated messages, but I also met some interesting people, a couple of whom I'm still friends with on facebook, and one of whom I'm married to.
On Word Search
I loved this. And what an amazing opportunity to talk to all of these people!
@SarahP I realized as I typed this that the technology aspect is maybe what bothers the "soak it in" people the most. Would a "soak it in" person judge me for reading through a sunset? Probably not. (Even if it's something trashy!) But looking at a phone somehow is less okay to some people.
Every day on the commute home from my last job, I would get to see the sun set over the Boston skyline. And some days I really liked setting my book (didn't have a smart phone at the time) aside and looking out the window. But other days I had seen the sunset before and I just wanted to keep reading. There is nothing wrong with that. We don't need to look at everything all the time!