@what As someone who has oral HSV-1 I can say that suppressive drugs are a fucking MIRACLE. I had an outbreak here and there over my 29 years until my body decided to have as many in just the last 6 months.
I'm all about destigmatization and sex positivity, but it's fucking unpleasant to say the least and not anything we should stop concerning ourselves with spreading, regardless of it's lack of 'danger.'
@Mariah Mantis@twitter Pretty much. Or you roll the dice (like most of us I'd say) and A. Hope you don't get it and B. Hope you don't get recurrent outbreaks if you are infected.
@RisaPlata Well if you have antibodies for one type you've already been exposed to it and can't 'get' it again. It's just a question of whether or not you have outbreaks.
However if you have 1 you can still get 2 and visa versa. Immunity only occurs for whatever type you've been exposed to and even then you theoretically can spread it to other parts of your own body.
Word up to all of the above. You guys are all basically saying the things I'm feeling, but far more eloquent and thoroughly.
"It's easy to understand how people who are habitually marginalized might be sick of making all the effort to bring about their own inclusion."
Aaaand just like that, my initial feelings about the topic are checked.
It's just so damn complicated. I really want to believe, and mostly do, that no one who sees themself as part of the movement is actively and intentionally being exclusionary or ignoring the issues of intersectionality. We need those voices, but we can't, and shouldn't try to, speak for them. So we need to be better about bringing them in to the discourse.
And of course there's the argument that dividing our attention among all the issues at once weakens our position, and that we should take one issue at a time (at least this seems to be a debate in the LGBT crowd re: marriage). But with that approach, will the issues of the relative minorities ever get addressed? There will always be bigger, more pressing, visible fights.
Ugh. Am I even making sense? I'm both over-caffeinated and doped up on painkillers.
I really care about intersectionality and am interested in the whole discussion, but it kinda feels like there will never be a solid common ground or solution. Too many issues and perspectives and variables.
@fondue with cheddar
Blog is a pretty great idea. My sister started one to update people on the adoption process. It's been very hard for them, and she was sick of having to go over the same bad news with everyone. So blog! Follow it and leave me alone.
I pretty much did the same thing with the extended family when I was diagnosed with Pulmonary Hypertension, but through email.
Alas, a reaction like that isn't very well regarded when it's family.
I'm a little torn on this.
There are plenty of people I'm comfortable enough with that dumping in wouldn't be a problem. In fact having those really honest conversations can sometimes make me feel better. And I think the perceived inability or reluctance to say those things to me is at least part of why some of my close friends backed off almost completely.
But, on the other hand, don't be insensitive.
I'd add that they also need to be treated like real people and humanized as much as possible.
Being sick is incredibly objectifying. So many people viewing and touching and investigating so much of you.