@burner Adding my voice to the chorus -- you're not alone. Personally, I don't feel bad for having kept my abortion pretty secret early on, and then dropping it into conversation only when it was appropriate and felt safe for me. (Like now. O hai Hairpin!)
Your medical decisions, whatever factors went into making them, and whatever consequences they had for you -- these are not things that your are obligated to share openly and frequently on pain of losing your Feminist Card.
@Linette I had a kind of other-side-of-the-coin situation. My mom was pretty peeved that I didn't tell her about my abortion right away. I think it's understandable, in my case, on two levels: 1) She was ticked that I didn't confide in her immediately, and 2) She was upset that I thought she might not have been okay with my decision. Both of those are understandable interpersonal dynamics, and once she forgave me for not being able to share right away, and I came to understand that my mom is more pro-choice than we ever got around to in conversation beforehand, it was all good.
@Mayor of Butt City Seriously. I had to get up and go hyperventilate in the bathroom for a few minutes.
@the roughest toughest frail As an enthusiastic-but-respectful pro-hug person, I would find that response awesome!
It actually reminds me of being told about a group of kids' camp councillors who, at the end of the day, would ask each kid "Hug, handshake, or high five?" This means that even the anti-hug kids got a bit of interaction and validation, and asking every kid every night acknowledges that sometimes our boundaries change from one day to the next.
@lobsterhug Jugs hugs!
(Sorry not sorry.)
@Porn Peddler YES.
@Quinn A@twitter Me too! She sounds delightful. I wish I could hang out with her.
The other article, on bikers protecting victims of child abuse and making them feel safe, is definitely a good chaser for the big glass of HATERADE that is the Kogan piece. Fuck the patriarchy, but fuck yeah Bikers Against Child Abuse.
@garli The Portlandia bit is one of my go-to cheer-up videos. (NB: Sometimes, I need to cheer up because I have been watching BSG. It's a vicious cycle.)
@Mira Yes. Past tense is key. "It was so nice to see you today!"
ETA: My grandpa's favourite turn of phrase is "Here's your hat, what's your hurry?" We are Canadian, and thus polite to a T, but my grandpa is enough of a BAMF that I am sure he has actually said this to people.
You forgot to replace that last "lotus" in there, Edith. :)