OMG! I own this book (Conception to Birth)! Not because I was preggers or anything, but because I'm a total nerd (i.e. developmental biologist/embryologist).
@rj77 I don't know about the author's experience, but for me it was that they saw something during the pap that warranted further examination (in the form of a colposcopy).
@formergr YES!! I love hot soup on a long flight. It also makes everyone around you super (souper?) jealous.
I was shocked too when I found out I had HPV. Then I realized so many people get it at some point in their lives. I got really good at telling my partners about it. One dude even complimented me, saying it was the most frank, mature STI discussion he had ever experienced. It also made me a lot more cautious about unprotected sex. So yeah, maybe some good things have come out of me having had HPV.
@Craftastrophies *Like* times one million. Also: super impressed that you were able to make a fuck buddy situation work.
@Craftastrophies I wasn't advocating being single -- I'd rather be in a relationship than be single. But you have to get to a place where you'd rather be single than be in an unhealthy, soul-sucking relationship. I had the problem (like LW1) where I put the guy's needs ahead of my own. I realized that I behaved differently around guys than around my friends and family, and I needed to be with someone who accepted me wholeheartedly. I totally agree with your last point -- I've also been extremely lucky to meet a GOOD person who doesn't manipulate my emotional weaknesses. Though, I have to admit that for a good portion of my life, I subconciously went after people that were NOT good. So, that was a major revelation for me -- that to have a healthy relationship, I should seek out healthy, undamaged people.
@rayray Aw, that's so sweet of you to offer! I'm keeping it blank for now -- that way, if/when I marry, I can switch my last name to my middle name.
@Hambulance I don't have one. Sad face.
I used to be LW#1, to a lesser extent. My advice? Don't be so hard on yourself (already said above, thanks A Lady!) and think of it as a continuous project. It's unlikely that you'll go from "begging like a dog" to the awesome woman you are with your next romantic experience. For me, it took several medium length relationships (6-9 months) to steer the ship toward better waters. Don't aim for perfection -- the key is to keep going in the right direction. Good luck!
@doomfordarlings I had the same convo during a break-up. Dude was like, "I tried to love you, I really did." He had the E.Q. of a robot. Also, this was *after* we traveled to Asia together to meet my family, on my parents' dime.