I went to an all girl's high school. There were none of these titled clicks in the way it's described here. My group of friends began calling ourselves Sparkle Motion after we watched Donnie Darko for the first time. Many of us are still friends, 13 years later. We still often refer to ourselves this way.
I am marrying a Phish fan (phan?), and let me tell you, it's a bit of a challenge. I'll admit I went through a bit of a personal crisis when I first found out ("I really really like this guy, he's super kind and funny and thoughtful, but I just don't know if I can get over this music choice."). Now it's something we deal with. Seeing Phish a few times a year is a way for him to meet up and nerd out with a group of college friends, and I can deal with that. I have tried and tried to at least tolerate the music...but not only do I not care for it, I actually actively dislike it. Like, 1.5 minutes of Phish kind of makes me want to punch a wall. I've decided that our ability to move past our vastly differing views on the band bodes well for the future of our relationship? And also that maybe Phish fans' brains are just programmed differently, and that I shouldn't bother to try to understand. Now we just have to figure out what to do about his insistence that a Phish song be played at the wedding...
LW #1: Is this guy super attractive? Unique and compelling? I have dated this dude (I mean a version of him, not the actual same dude). He is not ready for a relationship right now. He's too into himself to be into anyone else. He's going to leave eventually. You need to get out first, difficult as it is. Think about the last guy you had a crush on (maybe while dating this guy). Got that image in your head? Good. You're gonna find someone as awesome as that person who wants to spend all his time with you. Free yourself up and go find him.
LW #4: Lots of people get cold sores. Just don't engage in anything oral while you have an outbreak, even a small one. Take 1500 mg of L-Lysine daily to avoid outbreaks.
@FulanaDeTallcan AHA! Thank you for this. This explains a lot about a past toxic (but addictive and intense!) and current wonderful and healthy (very much intimate, not so intense) relationship. It all makes sense now.
I was in the midst of thesis-writing insanity when I began to realize that maybe the reason I kept dating guys with dogs and trying to convince my roommate to get a dog was that I actually wanted one myself. I hadn't been allowed to have a pet as a kid, and I wasn't sure I could do it. During a break from writing one night, I decided that I'd browse the website of a local rescue group, just to see, if I WERE to think about getting a dog, which kind it would be. I was halfway through scrolling down the page when I spotted her: a sweet-faced red and white adult lab mix. I swear my heart jumped at the site of her. I hesitated for a full three minutes before clicking the "send me more info" button.
It turns out Nina (then named Cheyenne) had been found abandoned outside in the Texas heat with a litter of puppies she had recently given birth to. She was horribly skinny and had a bad cold when they first found her. She was very timid when I met her, but I loved her right away. When I finally brought her home, she bonded to me immediately but lost her shit (quite literally) whenever I left the house. Slowly but surely, though, things got better. I also had the good sense to have our backyard fence reinforced so she couldn't escape, and I soon learned that she was quite the outdoorswoman and preferred to spend the bulk of her days lounging outside.
Now Nina is an integral part of the family: it's me, my Nina, the fiance, and his enormous shaggy lab mix. Nina is still a bit of a nervous Nelly, but having a full time buddy dog actually calms her considerably. The dogs love each other to death, and though I know in theory that we will probably one day have children whom we will love even more than we love our dogs, it's hard to imagine how that could be possible.
@anitabath I have this too. My fiance is tolerant of my disorder, considering what a jerk I can be when he's eating. My biggest fear is getting stuck next to a gum chewer on a plane or some other enclosed space. I almost had the leave a movie last night because of the popcorn eaters.
How very timely: the fiance just bought a vintage merkur yesterday as a special consolation prize for the fact that, after 5 years of sporting an excellent beard, he has to start shaving for a new job. i was sad to see it go; it kind of feels like i'm engaged to a new, fresh-faced guy who only vaguely resembles my hunny. anyway, he got his merkur from an antique store; it was made in the 50's but looks brand new. pretty amazing craftsmanship. and it did shave him nice and clean in the end.
LW#2: Please apply for some jobs in Austin! Many religious folks there tend to be more tolerant. Also, there are some other cool private and charter schools in the city that might be willing to hire you. Then maybe also take some night classes at UT to work toward your certification?
@anniemac I retract my statement (about the article not addressing curly hair), as references to curly products have been added. Thanks Jane!
I would like to submit that this article does not fully address the styling needs of white curly headed girls (not that we're an oppressed class or anything, I just think it's a different ballgame when you've got curly hair).
I have curly, frizz-prone hair and use curl-specific gel every day, and it does not give my hair a greasy or a crunchy look--it just cuts the frizz and defines my curls. I highly recommend DevaCurl products. Also, naturallycurly.com is a fabulous resource for curly headed ladies of all races and ethnicities.