@zamboni I would be as direct as possible! @adorable-eggplant's advice is definitely the safest way to go, but I wouldn't want to bank on him magically knowing that you're hoping to glob he'll respond to the email.
Something to the effect of "I've really enjoyed playing [sport] with you this season. Would you maybe want to go on a date sometime?"
One of the commenters on this week's Ask a Queer Chick (re: LW4 and painful intercourse) prompted me to make an appointment with my gynecologist and as it turns out I probably have an ovarian cyst! The bad news is that I have to do a bunch of tests, but the good news is that this completely random hairpin post and comment prompted me to take care of a potential medical issue before it becomes a big problem.
@klemay It's been really lovely! My regret is that I did not blog about it... so if you're up to the task, you totally should (and drop the link in the comments on an open thread or something)!
This is why I'm only reading female authors for a year. :)
(And when my year is up in June, I might never go back to male authors)
@hotdog The point of which could only be to derail the conversation from A Queer Chick's point.
@hotdog OK fine, "It is, indeed, ridiculous that we as a society have not gotten past the idea of 'sex' as 'penis-in-vagina'". The sentiment is still the same.
I'm not sure why you're so worried about defending Society that you needed to point that out...
@Jen@twitter Not going to lie, that actually prompted me to make an appointment with my doctor. I've been having pain regardless of the type of sex I have, and I'm not sure why it didn't occur to me that that's not "normal"...
LW4, your preferences are NOT ridiculous. What's ridiculous is the "PIV = Sex" messages we all get shoved in our faces every day, when many women do not even orgasm from PIV. And being terrified of pregnancy? Totally valid! (Although A Queer Chick is totally right, pleasepleaseplease always use contraception even when hooking up with trans women because even a tiny chance is still a chance.)
I am literally begging you not to resign to "suck it up and learn to tolerate penis-in-vagina," because anyone who doesn't want to respect your preferences is not a worthy partner. And honestly, I don't think we can really consent to something if there's no real option to say no, so the whole concept is rapey and gross (not a criticism of you, but a criticism of our culture).
@sashay whoa thanks! That's a lot less terrifying than what I originally thought.
"Some eggs now even have omega-3 fatty acids"
..why... are eggs.. changing?