On I'm Changing My Name, Again
How do you all actually feel about keeping your maiden name after marriage? I've always kind of viewed taking on a man's last name -- though I can definitely see the romantic appeal for newlyweds -- to sort of symbolize the taking on of a new identity that is defined by the existence of the man in a woman's life. Men, on the other hand, have the same "identity" whether they're married or not. And this is especially inconvenient in the event of a divorce, when the woman spends however much time afterwards grappling with questions of nominal identity (i.e., "I hate having his name, but I've met so many people as Katie _____ that it would be a hassle to change it", "the change would take too much time and effort", etc.) while none of these concerns even cross the man's mind.
Now, I absolutely respect the women who choose to take on a man's last name as their own. My mother has always frowned upon my desire to keep my maiden name because she believes that people would find the difference between my and my (hypothetical) husband's names to be confusing. I've told her that I would be open to hyphenating our two last names, but she frowns upon that idea because she feels that the product would be a mouthful.
I go back and forth. What do you all think?
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On Susy Solis Is Live in Cullen County
Collin Country! It's in north Texas. Cullen is the last name of Twilight vampires.