@questingbeast no no it's ok, I promise melis isn't being rude, melis is being melis.
@questingbeast The way I figure it, if Richard Curtis can make Hugh Grant PM, I can make him retire in Cornwall.
@questingbeast Yes, I was trying to squeeze them into some kind of familiar [American] political narrative. So that I flubbed on, but! The Cornwall thing is a nod to Richard Curtis' most recent movie, "About Time." Bill Nighy's family lives in a big pink house on the sea. Anyway, yes, I will gladly own up to those political mistakes. "This'll do," I thought.
@questingbeast 'Ello guvnor!
@melis .70 cents on the dollar. Same old story.
We should all die such lovely poetic deaths full of love and nostalgia.
By queenofbithynia on Interview with Filmmaker Izzy Chan: "Have we adjusted our expectations of what a man needs to bring to the table?"
And subconsciously, we’ll think things like “Not my type” if a guy is unemployed, or not making any money.
This just just just isn't true. Quite aside from the am-I-right overreaching of the "we" here, I remember many a conversation ON THIS VERY HAIRPIN back in the ask-a days, people straight up saying that they did not want to date someone unemployed or "unambitious" (= poor and not ashamed). I find all this pretty gross but it is not subconscious. It is highly highly conscious on the part of those women who have those preferences. It may be wrong (and I think it is) but one thing it is not is women just confusedly not knowing what they're doing as if they lived in a New York Times article fog or something.
Would you be open to supporting someone?
But of course! Me and my cat and my hypothetical layabout husband will live like kings on my $19.22 an hour in this ninth most expensive city in this not inexpensive nation. He will have to understand that I am happy to keep him and let him sit home but the cat manages the budget, she is used to it.
anyhow I question the idea that if men and women grow up with different ideas of what they ought to offer and what they may reasonably demand from a heterosexual partner (and it's true they do), it is the womens' expectations that ought to undergo a global change. Perhaps it is not a good idea to continue reinforcing a paradigm of coupled life where an ideal marital unit consists of one independent and one economically dependent party, regardless of sex? the only answer to how to not starve in a dying economy ought not to be marry someone who will pay your rent.
@Peltdown "I am a teacher, not a secretary." -_- Hey man maybe you got fired for your shitty attitude.
@mlle.gateau agh sorry i saw it in a bunch of headlines today so i figured it was already spoiled for people - i'll edit with an alert
@Maura Johnston I also want to be clear that I don't consider myself better than the show's fans at large:just more apprised of gender equality than these three misguided guys, which is one specific thing I will assert as better in a way that I wouldn't about my everyday taste in music. These dudes, their mothers would probably hate me. Etc