By YoungCrone on What Makes Us Feel Better When We're Sad?

I love this.

The first things I try are protein and sleep. It's amazing what a burger can solve.

Posted on November 21, 2014 at 4:59 pm 1

By callmeprufrock on What Makes Us Feel Better When We're Sad?

This is beautiful. Staying off the internet is a really good rule, and helps me stop the awful destructive habit of comparing myself to others and harping on the places where I fall short. Netflix is the exception; I will often watch TV shows and movies while knitting, cooking, cleaning, or organizing. The physical activity occupies my hands and the show occupies my attention, leaving little chance that my brain can continue its self-destructive worry cyclone.

When I can, I also like getting outside. Even if I just walk to the park, curl up on a blanket, and read, the fresh air lifts my spirits. On days when that's not possible, I open the windows and clean and spray some Febreeze.

@Rookie, love your username!

Posted on November 21, 2014 at 3:58 pm 1

By astrangerinthealps on What Makes Us Feel Better When We're Sad?

I like long walks and bike rides, but my favorite is burying myself in an elaborate recipe with a ton of steps, something like a pie or a fancy complicated salad that requires chopping and toasting and the use of special tools. There's something so soothing about following a long sequence of steps whose finished product is something delicious to eat. The only problem, especially when the cause of my funk is loneliness, is that by the time I've puttered myself out of my funk I've got a big pot or bowl or dish of yummy food and no one to help me eat it. I try to give things away, but it's harder than you'd think. The coping mechanism is preparing the recipe, but sometimes that turns into binge-eating just to avoid wasting food.

Posted on November 21, 2014 at 2:49 pm 1

By Jaya on How We Eat

Wait, can we talk about how they're all like "ooh American breakfast is so sugary and bad and dumb" and then in Amsterdam it's just sprinkles on toast?

Posted on October 10, 2014 at 1:44 pm 1

By mabellegueule on No Excuses: Responding To One-Handed Reviews

@beetnemesis So either you DON'T agree with all the points or you acknowledge that you are a " privacy-violating, consent-hostile" person "causing direct pain to real human beings for the sake of egotistical curiosity and jack-off fodder".

Posted on September 4, 2014 at 1:20 pm 3

By That's right, I'm Mr. Manager. on No Excuses: Responding To One-Handed Reviews

@beetnemesis "That said, I totally looked at them anyway, because... Internet." Wow, I think you may have just out-douched all the apologists you condemned a sentence ago.

Posted on September 4, 2014 at 1:05 pm 6

By dontannoyme on No Excuses: Responding To One-Handed Reviews

What I like about this is that it is really smart and the arguments are unassailable. Not that the helps the morons particularly - but it helps me to know that we (annoyed women/Hairpin readers/sensible others) have good reason, logic and intelligence on our side in this endless battle with bad stuff.

Posted on September 4, 2014 at 12:28 pm 5

By Kimberiffany on If You Don't Think This Is About Misogyny, There Is Nothing Wrong With You

I was looking forward to reading this thinking it would be a breakdown of some hard and complicated issues (and because I loved her piece on Tom Junod), but really Miller just bounced from hot-button issue to hot-button issue sighting a feeling of messiness rather than actually laying down an actual argument. Yes these issues are complex, but there's some middle ground between acknowledging the complexity of an issue and ignoring how our culture creates situations where it's ok to hate women. That enculturation is at the heart of many of the issues she brings up in her article, and I think Miller is doing a disservice to feminism and women by asserting that focus on how cultures and societies foster environments that encourage attacks on women are unjustly taking over the conversation. This is especially ironic considering that as she admits in the article, people (especially women!) are often shouted down for even expressing these ideas.

I think this also goes to the heart of all the time we spend arguing about arguing. Would it have been better if the Facebook commenter had written, “If you don’t think this is partly about misogyny there is something wrong with you.”? Perhaps, but saying that what it REALLY is about is guns and mental illness and NOT about misogyony is a worse oversimplification than leaving out the qualification.

With all of the backsliding in women's rights in the United States and, holy hell, on the internet, right now it's a struggle to just be a part of the conversation. Yes, let's all agree that there are very few issues that involve people that have simple causes. But let's avoid telling people to be quiet because their argument doesn't have as much traction as we would like, especially when their voices aren't traditionally heard or acknowledged.

Posted on July 25, 2014 at 1:02 pm 7

By Bunburying on If You Don't Think This Is About Misogyny, There Is Nothing Wrong With You

"the pain that we experience as women—even physical—does not give us the right to tell people there’s one way to think or feel, or to assume that we have some god-like understanding of everyone’s motivations."

Cool, this is exactly the same article about FEMINISTS DOING IT WRONG that Time has been publishing over and over for the past 20 years, glad I clicked to confirm. But I guess I'm just saying that because I'm a judgmental feminist harpy

Posted on July 25, 2014 at 12:20 pm 3

By I'm Right on Top of that, Rose on The Pickup Artists of PUAHate

@peasofmind OH! Yes! I wasn't meaning to imply that Patrick here has an eggshell mullet. I was thinking more of Hulk Hogan. Yes, Patrick is a total babe, and those guys have no idea what they are talking about w/r/t lips, because damn, Patrick. Damn.

Posted on November 21, 2013 at 12:53 pm 2