On Let's Talk About Friendship

@Rookie (not the magazine) (not that there's anything wrong with that) @peppercornelius Thank you both, really needed to feel un-alone.

So with you @peppercornelius about the expectation of romantic relationships vs. friendships. Totally sympathetic to gushing, issues, etc as normal human events but cannot abide by the end-all be-all expectation of romantic partners. It sucks for me right now, and it might well suck for you in the future when you need a wider friend group.

Posted on April 14, 2015 at 4:42 pm 0

On Let's Talk About Friendship

Oh so many feelings. I haven't called anyone my best friend since my grade 3 BFF dropped me like a hot potato once grade 4 started. I've never recovered and remain super skeptical of people who make friends quickly.

I do have amazing close friends, most of who are long distance (thanks grad schools) so like Kelsey (A Practial Wedding) I don't have that day-to-day check in. Mostly this works for me, too much contact is often very overwhelming to me. It's hard to balance between immediate, "real life" relationships and activities and a phone/inbox of texts, emails and Skype calls.

My most life-significant friendship is with my roommate. We are friends but it's a balance of friendship, partnership, and adopted-familial obligation.

Something I'm having a really hard time with lately is reconciling my friends and their romantic relationships. My default is to read this as "I am now demoted." Which, though a huge bummer, has often been the case. As a single person who has almost always been single, I place a very high value on my platonic relationships and it hurts when those external romantic relationships take precedence. It makes me feel like my relationships are way-stations for others and it hurts.

Pretty emotional about this today because the roommate is all swoony over a long-distance someone which is probably going to have a big impact on our little world.

In summary, friendships are great and hard.

Posted on April 13, 2015 at 5:05 pm 4

On An Interview with the Lady Aye, the Dorothy Parker of Sword Swallowers

Great interview! Also so fascinated with the sideshow life.

In a past job I got to meet the Fleet Family aka the Lucky Daredevil Thrillshow (http://www.luckydaredevil.com/) - husband and wife sword swallowers (+fire and snakes, also Jill sword swallowed while preggers). Here's a mini-doc about their home life http://vimeo.com/65971233

Posted on January 9, 2015 at 10:32 am 0

On You're Doo-ing It Wrong

@annejumps @NeverOddOrEven I strongly feel levels of squat toilets are strongly, positively correlated to levels of spry old people.

Posted on September 18, 2014 at 4:54 pm 0

On The Playground Gourmet

These are wonderful and may I point you toward the pioneering work they've done in the field of "Guys With Fancy Lady Hair"? http://www.thebolditalic.com/articles/3547-guys-with-fancy-lady-hair

Posted on September 10, 2014 at 1:45 pm 1

On Please Welcome Jazmine Hughes, The Hairpin's New Contributing Editor

Welcome @jazzloon! And where'dya get that rad raglan shoulder denim shirt?

Posted on September 2, 2014 at 2:03 pm 1

On It's Been Real, Buds

Thanks, Jia! You will be missed. Best of luck out there on the internets. Just did the right thing and signed up for your Thing.

Posted on August 15, 2014 at 3:15 pm 0

On Ask Baba Yaga: How Can I Stop Thinking About This One Person I'll Never Actually Get With?

@AmbiSinister Best advice, seconded. Much needed. Also, defenestration is the best word.

Posted on July 16, 2014 at 11:05 pm 0

On The Trouble With Reader-Shaming: A Y.A. Book List

@pollypeachum YES, Birdy totally holds up. So does saying "it grumbles my guts."

Posted on June 10, 2014 at 1:23 pm 0

On Ask a Fancy Person: Entry-Level Expensive, Unwanted Guests and the Gratefulness Feedback Loop

My entry level fancy is this coat! which I had a small heart-attack about buying but intend on looking super cool in for the next 20 years. So maybe outwear if you live in a place where that makes sense?

Posted on June 9, 2014 at 12:52 pm 0