@Miss Maszkerádi Eh, it does happen in real life -- and did to me -- but it's not a Big RomCom Realization so much as a slow evolution, and it has to be mutual. Obviously it doesn't happen in every friendship, either, or even most. Don't feel guilty!
@lindseygrad YES PLEASE!!!
I sort of love that you didn't ever date, actually! Because realistically, the odds of you guys staying together forever'n'ever after a blind meet-cute are pretty slim, but now you have an enduring friendship, and that is maybe just as awesome an outcome.
@werewolfbarmitzvah Mark. Jason. Derek. Andrew. All solidly classic, none terribly trendy right now, I think.
@'riel Favorite book of all time. I reread it every few years, and it says something new to me every time. It's odd to realize that Cassandra and Rose now not only *are* younger than me but *seem* younger. And it's so freaking evocative. I've never seen the movie because the whole thing is so gorgeous in my head. I'm still looking for my own version of the department store midsummer scent.
Also, maybe the best first line/last line combo of all time. "I write this sitting in the kitchen sink" to "Only the margin left to write on now. I love you, I love you, I love you." You could just read those two lines and know the coming-of-age story.
@parallel-lines Preventive care regulations are already in effect! (I'm 99% sure. My annual and birth control are free, at least.)
@MollyculeTheory According to the Washington Post link downthread, it's free under Obamacare for those for whom it's recommended -- which would definitely include the authors.
@parallel-lines You should also ask your relatives with the cancers if they've been tested before you do it yourself -- I think it's not completely unusual for those with the disease to be tested and it can save you time and worry.
This resonated with me. Two generations of my family on my mom's side have had breast cancer and I had a long-running internal debate over whether I'd want to get tested. As well as the insurance concerns (and I hadn't thought about the cost of the test), there is the sort of existential question: when I was thinking a lot about this, I was 21 and 22. I was not ready to grapple with whether I wanted to have a preventive double mastectomy in my 30s or early 40s, or go through the next 15 years of my life and the entire early part of my adulthood -- before I was likely to do anything about it -- with the knowledge, absolute knowledge, of my risk hanging over my head.
I think a doctor is the best person to talk to about it. Obviously there wasn't any reason for me to get tested in my very early 20s. But by now, I'd want to know whether I should and what a positive test would mean.
Thankfully, I don't have to worry about it anymore. About a year ago my mom mentioned casually in an unrelated conversation that they'd tested her for the BRCA genes and she didn't have them. I burst into tears. However, cancer clearly runs in our family, and it's possible they will discover other genes in the next 10 years that will force me to grapple with this all over again.
@polka dots vs stripes Wow. You are my hero. I can't even run the same route more than a few times in a row without needing to change it up.