@stroopwafel My main reaction to these commercials is always that the people have AWFUL TASTE in jewelry.
@maxine of arc I think this is where there's a difference between "boring" and "dealbreaker." There are some things that aren't my favorite to do, but that I have no real problem with doing, and then there are things that make me uncomfortable and I don't want to do. I can't really tell where LW4 lies because she says it's both intrusive and boring, but I'll err on the side of being a dealbreaker. It's up to her whether this is something she's interested in experimenting with or if it's an absolute no. But there is nothing wrong with experimenting with something you're unsure/apathetic about if the circumstances are right (no pressure, full consent, etc)
@Angry Panda I totally get where you're coming from. I'm half-Indian and definitely get a lot of those questions.
@Angry Panda Ahh, I read it more as an exasperated "ugh, can we just ban the idea of dowries" comment than an actual idea for a solution. It'd be like saying "ban the patriarchy;" a solution that's obviously not possible but would be so nice if it actually were.
@Angry Panda Doesn't mean they don't still exist. Same with the caste system.
If anyone is interested in the history of wedding gift giving and etiquette, this is the best book. http://www.amazon.com/All-Dressed-White-Irresistible-American/dp/014200216X
Registries can be intimidating, but it's basically taking the place of the bride's mother, who was supposed to be responsible for telling everyone in town what the bride wanted. And how awesome is it now that you can register for shit you'll actually use instead of a fussy china set that'll gather dust or just sit at your parents house because you can't fit it in your apartment? (Or get china, because that's cool too).
@hoo:ha I mean, "traditionally," gifts are never mandatory. For anything. Full stop. So there's no real need to say that it's not mandatory. But on our registry we have wording like "the greatest gift is your presence at our wedding, but if you feel so inclined..." etc.
And honestly, registries are useful. It was hard for me to get over the idea of accepting gifts, but all of a sudden we got two waffle irons and all this PRESSURE because people wanted to give and didn't know what and then started buying us ridiculous things (crystal candy bowls, hello). So we registered, some for everyday kitchenware because we drink out of pint glasses stolen from bars, some for charity, some for honeymoon experiences.
@Jaya Wait there's a ladder? Oh man, I need to refresh my sex ed.
@mollpants "Remember, men will have always have the power. If all it takes is some fake idea of feminism in their mind for women to become slutty w/o committment, it's worth it." I just gasped at my desk so loud people turned around.
It's so sad because the founder seems like not a complete asshat? Yes, women are just people like anyone else, with a wide range of feelings and motivations and personalities! Good job!
But then he created this pit. And the reason is "to provide people with a place to talk about whatever (legal) things they want." I hate to break it to him, but isn't that just...literally anywhere?