@Mariajoseh Oh I absolutely think weird is cool (Hi! My name is Jolie and I write about bleach with great enthusiasm!) but, like, The HP was always unabashedly goofy and earnest and bizarre. Which is cool, at least in my eyes, but not at all "cool-girl." There's SUCH a difference.
@likethestore You could come back every other week on Fridays. Just, you know, for a visit ....
The Hairpin, it felt very cool-girl, very sophisticated.
Sorry what? What Hairpin is she talking about? The Hairpin was always the total opposite of that, at least when it started. Alex Balk described it perfectly to me (when, full disclosure, I was SQUALLING at him for launching the site. "Why do we need a Lady Awl? Why can't The Awl still be for ladies and dudes? I HATE YOUR PINK GHETTO.") by saying, "Well it's a site for weird girls."
He really did mean that as a good thing. And it totally was a good thing, and not at all a "cool-girl" site, hello?
Stoners, laundry & dachshunds. Miss u every day, Hairpinnie.
@Emma Carmichael Oh girl, get thee to the Goodreads reviews.
@LilRedCorvette This comment actually makes the existence of the article kinda worth it?
"She oversaw a large yet tastefully cozy house renovation."
@evil melis NO NO NICOLE GET IN HERE SHE'S WISE WOMAN-ING YOUR NEW SITE [cowers in the face of the dollies]
@all: Apologies for being unclear, I meant that there was vitriol directed at The Hairpin/Edith and that's what upset me. You all have been lovely to and supportive of me and I do not at all begrudge you the pouting and refusal to make your beds that stemmed from my decision to decamp for Gawker Ish.
@Nicole Cliffe Just like you, I can't speak for anyone but myself, but generally yes it's just a matter of a (good? bad? terrible?) convergence of separate decisions all happening at once.
For me, the decision to move on was an extraordinarily difficult one, but one that was essentially made for me. Background: As The HP moved to being a more mainstream Lady Site, I became increasingly uncomfortable writing about cleaning while surrounded by discussions of false eyelashes, weddings, diets, etc. instead of discussions of dioramas, ghosts, spiders and whether or not you wear underpants under tights and hose. (Yes, always yes.) Because feminism. I suggested that AaCP might run on The Awl as well as The HP; the interest was not there. Subsequent to that and unrelated, I was dropped as an Awl contributor. So I took a hint, pitched the column elsewhere, Deadspin and Jezebel said yes, and here we are. Taking a hint, I think, is one of life's most underrated skills.
The night before the new column launched, however, Edith and I spoke in person and agreed that after six months I would take stock of how things were going at Gawker Media (they're going really great, you guys!) and see. I also had several pitches for her that I was sitting on until I'd cleared out other projects. We also agreed that I would be back for the Hallowe'en Advent Calendar, no question.
Obviously that's all changed and that is A-OK. Emma needs to run HER site HER way. Also: Emma is a treasure and I will break your kneecaps if you don't treat her right.
I love The Hairpin, and as many of you have noted I have made an effort to be present in the comments since my departure. The reaction to my departure post was very difficult to read. I have rarely seen such vitriol from this community, and it upset me terribly. I have been blessed, however, to see so many of you in the comments in my new home. I cannot say thank you enough to everyone — EVERYONE — involved in this site for the incredible opportunities that came my way because of my contributions to The Hairpin. Just like Nicole, I'm not mad at anyone. Edith is invited to my wedding! MOMMY AND CLEAN MOMMY AND BOOK-LOVIN' & FANCY-LEARNIN' MOMMY LOVE EACH OTHER VERY MUCH.
Anyway! I think I liked it better when I was lying on the floor thinking about glitter lip gloss.