@25688079@twitter Why are you assuming that we haven't read it? It's required reading in most Gender/Women's studies classes and still part of the feminist canon.
@ponymalta I think the main point of the article was actually "don't marry an asshole."
Don't mind me. Just dropping this off as an expression of my feelings about this NYT article...
Why are we still having this conversation, society? Which goes along with my horror at teen pregnancy. I thought the '70's offered up and decided these arguments.
I did read the article, and like other 'Pinners, felt that this is why I never trusted in that SAHM thing to start with.
I also wanted to comment that I haven't seen the issue of The Ailing Parent factored in, another goes with the territory job.
@Rock and Roll Ken Doll Truly. I mean, I am always confounded as to whether or not my charitable donations should go to the opera or the art museum. But then I remember my donations are a bag of old clothes and shoes and I dump them in the drop box out in front of the thrift store.
"By this winter, however, they spent their evenings on separate floors, she downstairs in the kitchen, on her computer, catching up on the work she missed during her hours of caring for the children; he, upstairs, watching TV alone... he had to adjust to the loss of her attention when she first shifted it to their daughters and then to her new job."
Whyyyyy is this guy not also shifting at least some of his attention to their children? Is she really supposed to be like "I feel terrible he has to watch TV alone because he apparently didn't pitch in on any of these parenting duties"
@ponymalta One of the many, many things that bug me about this whole genre of articles is that they seem to be talking about one certain kind of job, one that is demanding and requires lots of board meetings and spontaneous travel and happy hours. I work in an awesome non-profit. We currently have three (three!) women working part time due to maternity leave/kids. They have responsibilities! They are good at their jobs and they enjoy the work! IT CAN BE DONE, WORLD.
@commanderbanana Yes, just the thought of being in that bind, where you thought you had a partner who would help you build a family but it turned out it was all on you and you can't leave them without massive financial woes that don't just affect you but also affect your KIDS.... major part of why I probably won't have children. (I'm also just not very maternal and kind of selfish and not operating under the assumption that that part of my personality will radically change in the next 10 years...)
Like you said, if I'm poor as shit when I'm old, I want it to be because I spent my money having an awesome life, not because I deferred my life under the assumption the favour would be paid back and then got the rug pulled out from under me.
"'I think a big issue is that we both want to be taken care of at the end of the day, and neither of us has any energy to take care of the other,' Carrie said. 'It’s the proverbial ‘meet me at the door with a martini and slippers.’ Don’t we all want that? A clean house and someone at the door? I think when I wasn’t working I had some guilt that that wasn’t me, but now I want to be that other person. . . . When you’re absolutely exhausted, it’s hard to be emotionally generous.'"
Yes, that is called having a butler.
P.S. rich white ladies, if you want a lady butler, call me, I have no money.