@victorian rose I was on OKCupid in a college town that also had a large government contractor, and I went out with a perfect 50/50 split of grad students and engineers while I was on the site. As far as I could guess it was a match of geography and general interests/education level? Did definitely have some strange overlaps though (coworkers, friends-of-friends)
@frigwiggin I bought a pair of feel-better purple moccasins when I was in a shitty mood last weekend and I love them. They're almost a little too big even though I ordered a half size down, but I put in some insoles from a pair of boots that had died and they're perfect and cozy and comfortable.
@martinipie Yup... I spent a week with my parents between summer with my boyfriend and returning to grad school, and it WASN'T ENOUGH TIME. Hopefully now that my dad is retired they might visit me out here (14 hour drive from home) during the year though.
@garli I'm a big fan of the Champion ones from Target - they come in a few different cuts (I buy the leggings with the thick, often different-colored waistband). They've lasted me for years and run about $35.
@KeLynn This is the story of my whole relationship with Sephora and Ulta. Like the time I convinced myself I needed $43 foundation. BUT IT LOOKS SO GOOD.
I comfort myself with the fact that I still wear cheap mascara and rarely have time to do a full face of makeup, so it's lasted forever!
@SarahP My birthday was yesterday and I took my car in for a Carco inspection, finished up a big assignment, and switched over from an old purse to a new (birthday present) purse, which in all honesty was probably the most exciting part of my day. Yay August birthdays/responsibility!
@owlegg I LOVE IT I LOVE IT I LOVE IT. I'm about to watch the last episode right now but I'm sort of playing chicken with the "play" button on Netflix because I don't want it to be over. I was skeptical about Jenji Kohan after Weeds (which I gave up on years ago) but I have never seen a show tackle SO MANY subjects with humor and tact and gahhh I love it. The characters are amazing.
@frigwiggin I totally relate to this situation - I have awful travel dread/anxiety, especially when things start to go sideways. My suggestion would be to address the issues of the trip that are really bothering you (the car situation would freak me out too - is there someone else you can bring along with you or some kind of public transport you can take?). You stand a 0% chance of having a good time if you inconvenience yourself to the detriment of your comfort/sanity, and it might be worth a couple awkward conversations to fix that.
Also if it's something you decide you don't want to do at all and you'd rather hang at home with wine and Netflix, you're well within your rights to bail (as I have on many trips before). Solo "staycations" (ugh that word) are wonderful too.
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@Queen Elisatits As a humanities grad student partnered with an engineer, I feel you. I might be working up to "Dr." but all I see is crap job security and protracted adolescence ahead of me, especially in the darker moments when I compare our two lifestyles.
@mystique I see my story as not-convoluted but I guess it sort of is convoluted with a dash of moral ambiguity. Boyfriend and I met on OKC - I looked at his profile and I guess decided not to message him (eep) but he saw me in his stalkers and messaged me (I was outside of his age range, 2 years on the young side). This is Fall of 2011, right when I was starting my MA thesis (at my large hometown university) and applying to PhD programs. We hit it off and started dating, all with the knowledge that eventually I would move if I got in somewhere. Nonetheless, we got closer and closer, spending lots of time together, supporting each others' work even though it was taking us in different directions. We both held a lot back emotionally because we're bad at Talking About Feelings and also because by that point I'd decided I was moving 14 hours away to go to a program that really wanted me. We decided to break up when I left, and the summer was simultaneously love- and doom- filled.
I moved, we kept talking like nothing had changed, and we were both quietly miserable. I tried to do a bold thing and cut off contact. I started seeing someone else and tried to throw myself into that (and the massive stress of PhD coursework). I still cried about the boy all the time, looked at pictures of us, listened to Fleetwood Mac and got wine drunk when he sent me e-mails. Eventually I went home for Thanksgiving and we met up, and he told me that yes, he DID love me, he wanted to do long distance, he felt like he'd lost his best friend and companion when I left. We cried, I drove home to think about it, and once pulling into my parents' driveway immediately turned back around and went to his place. I went back and let the other guy down as gently as possible and started doing the long distance thing in earnest with my again-boyfriend. And now he's next to me in bed while I'm writing this, showing me silly Adventure Time pictures on his laptop.
ETA: Sorry for the late response and novel. I haven't actually written this out before, it's always told in bits and pieces.