I tweet (@tinydancer06), do CrossFit, blog, and surf the internet aimlessly.
@lostinthesupermarket Congratulations on finishing!
@Emby Former IRS auditor here. Freelancers will get a 1099 (that was mentioned by someone else). They do cross-search the 1099s (which are sent both to the IRS and to you) with SSNs and figure out who isn't reporting income. Computers do it. So, don't fudge it, they have 3 years to audit you.
@EllyHigginbottom I've been tightlining using an Urban Decay 24/7 eyeliner (I like a dark brown), and then doing my eye makeup like normal. I wear contacts and so far no issues with my eyes at all!
I get a lot more irritation if I do eyeliner on my lower lash line/waterline so I tend to use shadow for that instead.
I guess mine is (a), but it's really a Lululemon bag I wear crossbody that carries my gym clothes, water bottle, shoes, lunch, iPad, wallet, and other assorted junk (lotion, contact solution, sunglasses, lip gloss) I can fit in the many many pockets of the bag.
If it's not a "go to the gym right after work" day, I carry a gray Belen Echandia purse that would fit under the (b) category. I can wear it crossbody if I use the extra strap, but it was a gift to myself for finishing grad school in 2009. Back then BE did "bespoke" bags so I picked the leather, the color, the lining, the placement of the zippers, and the color of the hardware. LOVE!
@hellomynameis Grey is a great color! I painted my apartment kitchen grey, and I bought a paint (Behr Interior) with a self-primer. It went on the white walls great! Here's a pic of my kitchen too.
@Derbel McDillet My sister got her MSW a few years ago and she started applying for jobs about 2-3 months before she graduated. She actually ended up getting a full-time position where she did her internship, and they helped her get hours for her LCSW exam. Good luck!
@Emby LOL and I agree with you on the Resentment thing. I had a lot of that in my last relationship and it was NO FUN.
@Emby See I've been feeling like HE is way more into this than me, b/c he keeps bringing up "the future" which is how I even found out about any of this stuff. I would have been unaware that this is how he felt about any of this except that he brought it up.
@everyone There is a part of me that thinks I'm trying to find a way to end it as a self-protection thing so I don't get disappointed/hurt in the future. But then there's the other part of me that just thinks I don't like him enough to do this LDR thing. I'm sort of conflicted.
Thanks for letting me type it all out. Part of why Hairpin is so awesome.
Ok, I wrote about some boyfriend questions/issues and they've gotten clarified a bit more and I am thinking of jumping ship.
Quick background: LDR, new-ish (official as of beginning of the month).
Boyfriend has told me, in no uncertain terms, that he can't transfer for 3 years due to some contract. He is not willing to look for a new job.
He also announced that he can't consider marrying someone until he lives with them first.
We live 200 miles apart.
So...I'm either looking at - AT LEAST - a 3-year LDR, or I have to move and completely uproot my entire life before being engaged/married.
At this point I don't know how I feel about him. I like him, we're sexually compatible, but I am somewhat put off by his rigidity in even considering a change of job/location if we continue dating. I also do not feel comfortable with the idea of uprooting my life to move to a town that I do not like before having a ring on my finger. Call me old-fashioned, but I'm not uprooting my life for a boyfriend. A fiance, a husband - yes.
I had a conversation with my sister about this and she's like, "If you like him enough this stuff won't matter" - and I thought about it and I was like, I'm not sure I like him enough to make the effort to make this work. I even used the term "giving up my weekends" to spend time with him. If he was here it would be a lot easier, of course, but not sure even then that I'd be jumping through hoops to spend time with him. I like my life and I like my routine and I like my weekends where, if I choose to, I can do absolutely nothing but surf the internet and watch episodes of Vampire Diaries. Or go to the gym for 5 hours on a Saturday to hang out with my friends (I do CrossFit).
So yeah, anyone got some advice for me? Should I just end it and spare him (and myself) the future heartache?
@Quinn A@twitter Congratulations! Love the story!