On A Very American Open Thread

@Lurkasaurus I was unemployed for 18 months and had 0 interviews the entire time until my now job called me up, so I totally 100% understand where you are at.

My advice - you have to do something to add to your resume, so volunteer. See if there are any unpaid internships you can. Also, and this really helped me, take a look at your last job and see what you liked about it. Take the industry you were in out of the equation and boil it down to a skill set. You liked meeting new people, analyzing data, doing something creative, etc. And then, once you have your list, start your job search with your list, rather than with your skill set. Write your resume and cover letters to highlight those features that you were really good at and want to feature in your new job.

You aren't a failure. The market is really tough. But you will find a job, perhaps in a completely new field (like me).

Also, network, network, network. Get on LinkedIn. See if anyone in your network knows someone at one of the places you want to apply and see if they'll introduce you to their friend there. If you want to do something slightly different, reach out to someone doing that job and ask them to go to lunch with you to discuss what they do. It's really hard to do, but it works.

Hang in there! It's a tough world, especially if you don't have a job, but you will find one. You will.

Posted on July 3, 2013 at 11:22 pm 1

On Friday Open Thread

@geek_tragedy I've been GF for 11 years and it's a lot easier now than it was before. For the easy stuff - the best GF bread, hands down, is Udi's. You don't have to freeze it, you can eat it without toasting it and it has great texture and flavor. Betty Crocker's cake mixes are the bomb - moist, yummy, great texture (texture is a huge problem with GF stuff). You can get chex and other GF cereal in the grocery store and a lot of the stores carry GF stuff now. Dominoes does GF, but you have to make sure they don't contaminate it while making it. The easiest way to do the transition is to start off cooking everything from scratch, since sauces tend to have gluten. And then slowly start adding GF sauces or make your own. Find me Gluten Free is a great free app that will find you restaurants in your area with GF menu items. For baking, it'll take a while to figure it all out - it's like chemistry - but Bette Hagman's flour mixes are great and Pamela's pancake mix is awesome. Tinkyada pasta is really good too. The biggest hurdle you'll face is social events around food. It's hard at first to be somewhere where everyone is eating and you can't eat the food, so eat before you go, bring yourself something yummy to eat, or plan on running out and getting some tacos in the middle of the party if you need to. It isn't easy, but it's totally doable. Let me know if you have any other questions. After 11 years, I have it down.

Posted on June 7, 2013 at 10:04 pm 1

On Friday Open Thread

@luna848 I've been on Seasonale (90 day pill cycle) for 10 years now. When I am not taking the pill, during the placebo week, it takes my body about 2-3 days to realize it's time to shed some red. But then it does and it's fine and I take the pill again. When I was unemployed, I couldn't afford the $120 for the bc, so I stopped taking it and my body didn't really like that at all. Lots of pain, lots of hormonal fluxes, so I went back on it. But, and this is the but, many of my friends (and even my obgyn) said that it takes at least 30-60 days for your body to right itself. So, if you're willing to hang in there, then go for it.

Posted on June 7, 2013 at 9:51 pm 0

On Friday Open Thread

@empathicalist I switched careers at 37, into a completely new field filled with younguns, and mainly male young people. What worked for me is embracing the change as if I was 20. I didn't have the experience they had, I certainly don't have the energy they have, but I could (and still do 3 yrs later) learn from them. It can be tough, but if the company has the right vibe, it can be easy too. I have no problems having a boss 13 years younger than me because she knows her stuff. It is partly about attitude. If you show them that you are there to work and learn, you'll be ok. Unless they're assholes, and then just learn what you can and GTFO.

Posted on June 7, 2013 at 9:34 pm 1

On Do You Need a Hug?

@I'm Right on Top of that, Rose yep, me too. When Mr Bambi hugs me when I'm upset, I only hug myself, I don't hug him back. It's this weird weird thing.

Posted on May 17, 2013 at 12:11 am 0

On What Goes With Your Spring Crush?

@Lily Rowan Or, you can use a silver spoon to keep it fizzy. Just drop the handle of the spoon into the top and pop it back into the fridge. It totally works, but it can't be a fake I spent $2 on it at Target spoon, or it totally doesn't work (not that I know anything about that. Ahem). But a good sterling silver spoon works great.

Posted on May 13, 2013 at 11:49 pm 0

On What Happens When [Partner A] Says 'More' and [Partner B] Says 'No'

@fondue with cheddar That's how it is with my husband too. He feels closer to me when we're intimate and I just see it as something fun to do. And, his libido is way higher than mine. But after 3 years of negotiating, creating scars, baggage, and a lot of fights, we've finally sorted it out. I do the 15 min. routine mentioned upthread and never tell him no, unless it is truly a no for me that day. And things are good. :)

Posted on April 24, 2013 at 4:12 pm 2

On The Best Sugar Cookies?

I like crispy sugar cookies the best. But 'Piners, I need to find a great gingerbread cookie recipe that works for the Australian crowd (stepdaughter is coming over and is very picky), so if anyone has a great gingerbread cookie recipe, could you post it? (and I'd be really thrilled if it was gluten-free, but I can always adapt it).

Jane, finger food - super easy (if a little gooey to make) and soooooo yummy. You cut a date in half, get rid of the pit, slather in some cream cheese and top it with a walnut. The cream cheese plus sweetness of the date plus the walnut equals a little mouthful of heaven.

Posted on December 12, 2012 at 3:53 pm 0

On I Never Meta-Horror I Didn't Like

@Uumellmahaye Lesbian Vampire Killers. It's not so much horror as a campy Evil Dead, but with English guys and lesbian vampires, but it is Hilarious!

Posted on October 19, 2012 at 1:20 pm 0

On Friday Open Thread

@professionalmess I wash my hair almost every other day. Sometimes, it's every day, but only when I get a really sweaty scalp from the weather or house projects. I throw my hair into a shower cap to keep it dry and then do the poor man's dry shampoo - A blush brush + baby powder (cornstarch based). I then tackle my bangs from under and above the scalp line, the side of my face by my ears (really shows the greasies the most), and random scalp points. I let it sit for 10 min before brushing it out. I have blonde hair, so you can't see the powder, but it might be a problem with darker hair than mine.

I don't get greasy bangs or the slick patch on the side of my hair (even if it is greasy when i put the powder on) when I do this. It does make your hair a bit...gritty or textured, but I'll take that over the greasies.

Posted on September 7, 2012 at 7:46 pm 0