On Beauty Q&A: ID Photos, Gaudy Shoes, and Looking 10 Years Younger
@arrr starr I have the same exact problem. I mainly pick shoes with straps, but I can get away with pumps where the straps are really low by the toe (I don't know why, but they stay...mostly). I'm really wanting to rock some ballet flats, but they don't stay on my feet. But, my friend suggested sewing in some elastic, so I am going to do that and rock some flats...finally.
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On What I Meant to Do
I think the biggest problem with the negative comments that have been posted about not mailing something is completely missing the point of the article. It's not that the author regrets not posting something, it's that she appreciates what these women taught her about being a mother since she didn't get it from her own. It's a piece of WRITING, not a to do list.
And, it's obvious that either the negative commenter (nope, not giving her the satisfaction of seeing her name again in print) has a grand relationship with her mom and doesn't understand how deep the pain is when you're mom is less than ideal (like mine), or she's so unhappy that she has to try and control her entire environment, including other people's, STRANGERS, behavior. Either way, it's moot. She didn't get the point. She's judgmental and unhappy. And really not worth any more Piner's time (IMHO).
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On GTFO, Prom
@Sarah H. I didn't go either. My junior year I was away for the weekend and my senior year I was in Germany, where prom doesn't exist (German high school). I don't feel like I missed much, except maybe really horrible pictures from the early '90s.
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On [Maybe] Good Books That Defined You
It was when I was very little, around 5 or so, but Harold and the Purple Crayon is a big life changer for me. It made me realize how powerful imagination is and I spent lots of time in my head making up stories and adventures because of that book. As a young teen, any of the books by Elizabeth Peters, because her heroines are all intelligent, funny, sarcastic and admit it when they make a mistake (which they frequently do). Anna Karenina, which was my first Russian novel. Atlas Shrugged, because it made me realize that I deserve to be paid what I'm worth. Anything by Jane Austen, because she made me realize how powerful language is and how well it can be used ("You will inopportune me no further...").
There are so many more...I love books.
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On Friday Open Thread
@SarahP We just moved into our first house and while the entire process is painful, it's so awesome to have a house! Even with no furniture and lots and lots of house debt, I can't believe I own a house. Congrats on your impending sale and on your new house!
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On Semi-Secret Affairs, Smanging, and the 88 Percent
@tortietabbie 'wishing you wanted him as much as he wants you' isn't emotional manipulation, it's a low self-esteem comment. My husband truly feels I don't want him like he wants me, which is bunk. I totally want him, just not for sex every day.
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On Semi-Secret Affairs, Smanging, and the 88 Percent
@DaMao My guy says the same thing. He thinks that I don't find him as attractive as he finds me because I don't want sex as much. I've basically taken to letting him know that he's hot (when he looks good) to combat that problem. Guys just don't get that it's chemistry for those of us with a lower libido, not love, attraction or anything else. I'd much rather sleep too, but sometimes you just have to take one for the team.
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On Semi-Secret Affairs, Smanging, and the 88 Percent
@DaMao My husband and I have this problem and it has been a bit of conflict in the past. What we've done to address it is for me to up my game a bit (let's face it, I may not be in the mood, but I can definitely get there pretty quickly) and/or have had times where I've helped him out but we didn't have sex (if you know what I mean). And for him, he's not been as demanding on the 6x a week thing. For my husband, sex = intimacy, which is why it became a conflict. Different libidos are hard, but if you both work at it, you can get around it.
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On All the Weddings I Have Ever Been to, as I Remember Them
I've been in 6 or 7 (bridesmaid and one time officiant) and been to at least that many, if not more, where I wasn't a bridal party member. But, with the exception of 3, possibly 4 more, I think I've seen the end of weddings (except that I just had to update the number because I remembered the wedding next year in Australia that we have to go to, so....yeah.).
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On Ask a Clean Person: Laundry School — Lint and Static and Ironing, Oh My!
@The Lady of Shalott My husband irons his work shirts (button downs) after the wash cycle and then again when they are completely dry before he puts them on. His best friend actually said that she thought he visited them just to use their iron. So, I think the boy loves to iron. I just wished he loved to iron MY stuff, because I'm not a fan. I'm fast at it, but not a fan.