By erin uh oh on Ask a Fancy Person: Occasionless Gifts, Chemo Baldness at the Office, The "Thanks For the Birthday Wishes" Anomie
Whose idea was it to use a picture of a bald woman smoking a cigarette to illustrate the question from the cancer survivor? Tacky!
By allyb on Armpit Hair?
For a gendered phenomenon, this is an incredibly non-gendered analysis. If pit hair triggers disgust of sex, why don't men shave? A simpler explanation might be that lack of pit hair is a marker of femininity in our culture, so deviations from that disrupt our sense of what a woman is supposed to look like.
As someone who is asexual, I found this piece kind of offensive. Yes, the guy was absolutely wrong about dating a teenager (which the article glossed over, as if that were the most trivial of his offenses). But I don't know that he was a big lying liar with DANGER written all over him. Should he have been honest up front and say I'm a romantic asexual and I'd like to try sex but I really don't know if it will work for me? Probably. But there are lots of big things that only an individual can gauge when they're ready to divulge in a relationship. When does one tell their partner they're trans? Or bi? Or they have low sex drive? Or they're intersex? Or they were sexually assaulted? Or that they're into a certain fetish (or BDSM)? All different situations that may come into play in a sexual relationship (or relationship in general); and I don't know that there is a right answer for when to divulge. I mean probably before you're celebrating your 15th anniversary. But do you have to share them before the first time you have sex? I don't know.
What happened to them was sad, and not really fair to either of them. But what I found offensive that almost one of the first things she asks is what his therapist says about him being asexual (subtext, clearly there's something wrong with you or you wouldn't be asexual). And then she quotes her ignorant friends who refuse to believe in his asexuality, as if what, they're experts? Finally she quotes Dan fucking Savage, who is completely utterly ignorant and awful when it comes to asexuality (not to mention his awfulness about being trans); as evidenced by his quote about not believing asexuality is a real thing. I appreciate her end paragraph, but what came before was pretty awful.
Not All Men because these ones will be spared
By de Pizan on Hot Paleo People
@Sister Administrator I lost it when I was reading a paleo cookbook, and the author recommended that people claim they were allergic to gluten when eating out at restaurants. As someone with celiac, who in the last few years has gotten an increase in restaurant workers asking me just how serious my gluten free needs are, or has gotten eye rolls for people on the other side of the counter, fuck you paleo author lady.
By Mariajoseh on The Beauty Bridge
This was SO GOOD, Jia! I recently interviewed the head of the Dove Project. She's a really upbeat lady, really engaged with the work that she does. But I just couldn't get her to say one IMPORTANT thing about marketing and beauty and it was very frustrating... maybe I'm just not a great journalist.
Why don't they just call it butthole yoga and be done with it.
What kind of sadistic fuck would even dream up naked yoga.
@nomorecheese there shall likely be some news on this front soon :)
@Shelly Shim@facebook Her hair looks better on the left because in that picture she hadnt yet spend the past few years literally chemically bleaching her hair with both carbonic and acetic acid.