I find this an incredibly annoying position. SO much literature is released every year. Small presses and indie authors are doing incredibly innovative work. Yeah, you have to dig for it; a good chunk of what gets major media coverage is not especially challenging or exciting, but in a country that is home to Eileen Myles and Kelly Link and Kate Zambreno and Teju Cole, it is lazy and disingenuous to say that the literature as a whole is dumbed down. Fuck, I'm not even an American citizen or resident, small American press lit barely makes it into stores in Canada, but I read Bookslut, I follow indie authors on Twitter, this stuff is not that hard to find.
Also, I am an eager and devoted television watcher, but I absolutely reject the idea that tv writing is more advanced than current literary writing. Television is still full of privileged narratives, linear plotting, and expected moments of emotional resolution, and the fact that such a small percentage of shows ever see a public audience plus tv's reliance on widespread marketability means that's not likely to change any time soon.
By RNL on Friday Open Thread
1) I'm not judging you, but I sure as shit am judging him!
2) Everyone's got great advice, and I will repeat it: do not tell her, do not talk to her, do not (if you can help it) ever see him or talk to him again.
3) Also, I was in a very different but also a bit similar situation that culminated in a "do I tell his girlfriend/fiancée/now wife?" agony-type situation. I wrote into A Lady. The answer is nope nope nope nope, as I resoundingly heard from A Lady and the Commentariat. I do not have the luxury of never seeing this fucker again, as he sits two doors down from me at work. Still does!
The problem is you feel shitty for what you "did" (shh it's ok, you're ok), and as you work to move out of the horrible emotional state this guy put you in, you want to try to be a better person, and you have fixated a bit on "righting the wrong" by telling this girl. But it doesn't work that way, I'm sorry love it doesn't. Say goodbye to him (in your mind, not with your mouth or words), and look forward to meeting someone not horrible.
@Quinn A@twitter are you new here? (just kidding, i know you're not). this is the hairpin- women, esp. lesbians, aren't allowed to leave comments without the obligatory NAMALT disclaimer!
By Urwelt on The Things We Hide
@planforamiracle Somehow I don't think he actually knows what a Diva Cup is if he thinks's he's keeping a "couple" around just in case. They're like $30 each!
Created an account just now (after maybe a year and a half of pure lurking!) to say how much I love Ask Baba Yaga. Took a while for them to grow on me--now I read each one closely.
@beetnemesis Ain't safe to throw shade at Baba, little mortal one.
I love this series so.
@beetnemesis and some of us love them! (including me!)
@beetnemesis some people like them! (including me!)
@gtrachel My skin crawling moment was "no sleeveless shirts unless playing sports or on the beach." Say what? Especially since the intimation was that this rule is only for his daughters, not his sons. I wasn't aware that shoulders are provocative.