On It Was Really Lovely Meeting You

@Pear tea agreed!

Posted on March 29, 2014 at 9:10 pm 0

On "Penis, Penis, PENIS!": The Legend of Nancy Silberkleit

@Rock and Roll Ken Doll

I think that protected status is called "male privileged."

Posted on January 3, 2014 at 5:22 pm 1

On "Penis, Penis, PENIS!": The Legend of Nancy Silberkleit


Are we talking prison rape? Or prison sex?

If rape this brief comment implies it's more a man's issue than a woman's (or at least gets the same kind of media reporting this sort of harassment case gets compared to others). And for sure, prisons are one environment in which men are more likely to be assaulted than others. For sure.

And yet. There is an And Yet here. That and yet is that it's not exclusively an issue affecting men. It's not an important issue only because it affects men and that we make that visible in our public discourse.

We know assault and rape of women in prisons is a serious issue if only because the federal law that makes it a felony for a prison staff member to engage in a sexual relationship with an offender stems from serious, systematic, abuse by staff of women incarcerated in the GA prison system.

Prison rape affects more men than women because many more men are incarcerated in the US than women. But in terms of prison percentages, the idea that there is a huge difference is questionable at best.

Not only that, but the And Yet, to me, about this article is *not* that Silberkleit was allegedly harassed and so her alleged harassment of others is relatable and therefore justifiable. The And Yet to me is that these sorts of work environments are as common as dirt. They can be headed by dudes who talk a really good game about social responsibility. AND YET the gigantic kerfuffle over one CEO's behavior is an exception to the rule example. Not one of the ones we stumble over every day in the workplace, where men in executive positions and the men under them in power do this every day all the time. And that women have developed systems to cope with and manage because bringing a lawsuit is, again, going to have questionable outcomes.

Why might that be, one wonders?

The fact that Silberkleit might have learned how to act she did by absorbing the acceptable standards of behavior around her is by the way. And it was foolish, since of course she couldn't get away with it. AND if it is true, it's wrong.

Unlike the case brought against Silberkleit, which I expect will do fuck all to make it easier for women to bring harassment charges against employers, the Georgia case HAS benefited men. The rules about staff-offender relationships applies in men's facilities, too, and is enforced.

Posted on January 3, 2014 at 5:22 pm 2

On "A government which uses force to maintain its rule teaches the oppressed to use force to oppose it"

@hallelujah my feelings exactly.

That and, my students were all born after he had been released from prison, and to them this is history. Which is... it is but it's not, you know?

I dunno. Something something time and social change something.

*wrinkles up* *turns to dust* *blows away*

Posted on December 6, 2013 at 12:41 pm 0

On Internet Work and Invisible Labor: An Interview With the Fug Girls

@The Lady of Shalott word to all of this, LOS, including the from the Old Days part through to the body non-snark.

Posted on December 3, 2013 at 10:04 pm 0

On How My Obsession With Furnishing A Future Put Me Nearly $40,000 In Debt

@lovingskyfairy... ... ... ... that was so mean, I caught my breath a little. And being mean the internet is not, actually, how you win. Whatever it is you win on the internet.

And *even if SEW* is being cruel, which I don't actually think she is, return meanness is not actually a winning strategy at being a human person in any arena.

But I guess it's good to know you have the skills? Or something.

Posted on November 6, 2013 at 6:50 pm 3

On How My Obsession With Furnishing A Future Put Me Nearly $40,000 In Debt

@Party Falcon hi party falcon, hi hi hi!!

Posted on November 5, 2013 at 6:39 pm 1

On Friday Open Thread


All the mail pinned to your fridge said was "I hope you are doing well, lots of good wishes XOXO Me." I hope you could feel the love through the unopened envelope.


Posted on November 5, 2013 at 6:38 pm 0

On Ask a Dietitian: Wine Time, Fruit Soup, Our Forbidden Lover (Diet Coke)

@BeesKnees I am sorry. That is a whole lot of standard units of suck.

Posted on October 23, 2013 at 8:56 pm 0

On Ask a Dietitian: Wine Time, Fruit Soup, Our Forbidden Lover (Diet Coke)

@stuffisthings Well, except for the fact that some things don't become edible or easily digestible until they are processed. Blah blah grains something something invention of fire and cooking.

Posted on October 23, 2013 at 8:54 pm 1