On A Sci-Fi Christmas Story
@miwome Most recently: playing hockey, but none of us had our skates on - we were just sliding around in shoes. And the puck was the size of a bottle cap. And someone had put figure skating costumes on the hangers with our pads, etc. Still not as weird as Bon Vivant, though.
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On A Sci-Fi Christmas Story
@The Lady of Shalott The Qream is a lie!
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On A Sci-Fi Christmas Story
@HRH Your Cuntness Honeymoon plans? How's the weather on his planet this time of... um, the galactic orbit of their star? Or whatever? Anyway, I'm sure you two make a great couple.
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On Kids: Worth It? and Game Day Etiquette
@Hanna Metsis@twitter Uhhh... she actually asked for his opinion on the matter, and he gave it. Yes, some people don't want kids (more power to them). Some do. Do you really mean to say that women shouldn't even HEAR that some people think having kids is magical?
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On Kids: Worth It? and Game Day Etiquette
@citKat Moving dinnertime is crazy talk? I would need Prozac probably 3 days a week. Seriously, moving dinner time is not that big a deal.
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On Kids: Worth It? and Game Day Etiquette
@KeLynn Not a SEAL here, but a Navy guy. The complicating factor in my marriage situation that my intended was in the Navy too. And we were both due to transfer, and I knew absolutely for certain that I was going to Newport, RI (for some courses) and then probably to Norfolk. So wife-to-be calls her detailer, and mentions that she's engaged and would like to get stationed with me... and the detailer says words to the effect of: "engaged? As in not married yet? Too bad, you're going to Wales".
We got married by a justice of the peace three days later (we did the big church wedding a few months later). She calls the detailer back, says oh by the way I'm married now, and you'll be giving me orders somewhere closer to my spouse. Detailer was pissed but did cut orders to Charlotte, NC, and after a year she and I both transferred to Norfolk.
As pointed out above: 1) chances are very good he will not complete the BUD/S program, which is extremely, extremely difficult and has a very high failure rate. You both need to be ready for that. 2) You need to be discussing all this with him - you both need to be in agreement as to the plan. 3) It might actually be in your interest to wait until his training is complete (one way or the other) before joining him - he's going to have very little time to be with you anyway. Might be best for him to focus on his work for a while.
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On Kids: Worth It? and Game Day Etiquette
@QuiteAimable Jesus, particularly when there are FOUR SETS OF THEM. That's not family visiting, that's a marathon. I think separate family visits are entirely in order.
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On Kate Bolick on Refusing to Settle (Part Two)
@commanderbanana I've never quite understood that either. Especially when you consider that long-term relationships are frequently marriage-equivalent, legally speaking - in that it often requires legal action to get out of them. So if you're effectively married anyway, why not go whole hog? At least you get a nice party out of the deal.
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On Kate Bolick on Refusing to Settle (Part Two)
@DrFeelGood God, yes. Pop music is especially pernicious in this regard - so many of the lyrics seem to suggest that all you need to do is passively wait and your Princ(ess) Charming will show up and sweep you off your feet.
By all means, if a committed relationship isn't right for you, or a particular person isn't right for you - then don't get married. But if getting married is something you definitely want, then be prepared to settle. Because everyone who gets married has settled. Everyone. One of the corollaries to the idea that nobody's perfect is that nobody's perfect for you. No matter how wonderful your prospective mate is, there could always someone better looking, kinder, more considerate, who has more in common with you, etc.
I think there's a tendency for society to tell people to hold out for perfection in their spouse selection, and that's really harmful.
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On A Sci-Fi Christmas Story
@Ping the way this goes down at my house is that my wife blames me for something "I" did in her dream, and I look perplexed.