@JessicaLovejoy maintaining separate shopping lists, cooking routines, and mealtimes sounds super romantic, and economical too. Sure, eating together isn't a requirement, but if you love eating and you love your partner, it sure can be a bonus of living together (and also emotionally laden, hence the question, most likely).
@bb (to clarify to myself since no one else is probably reading this thread anymore) I would rather deal with over-blog-educated bike crusaders who tell me that my helmet is not necessary than overly concerned meddlers who tell me to wear one.
@dotcommie I'm so with you on the helmet wearing despite knowing the theories of why I shouldn't. And I will say, having experienced both, I would rather be lectured about wearing a helmet than lectured about NOT wearing a helmet.
@raised amongst catalogs I love Ty Burrell too (not that I really know what he is like IRL), but for a sec I thought of Ty Pennington (the guy from Xtreme Makeover Home Improvement) and I was very, very surprised.
@D.@twitter I'm a bit of a chicago skeptic, but it did strike me that Shteir doesn't seem to find its quirks charming, which you kind of have to do to live in a city for 10+ years. Not sure if that's what you mean by Moscow.
@km1312 By "culturally" I realize I do mean both the cultural events and the feel of the people. By cultural events/happenings, I mean the city does not feel (that) cutting edge. OK, more cutting edge (I assume) than smaller cities, but it does not feel like, hm, let's see what is going on in art/design/music/food/theater/etc - let's look at Chicago. Chicago has all of those things strongly but not in a new or avant-garde way.
By culture of the people, it is very provincial and insular - which is fine but different from NY and many other major US cities (LA, Miami, hell even DC for all its weirdnesses). In NY it never feels odd to hear someone with an accent who has lived there for 10 years (or 1, for that matter). While of course there are native NYers, the culture of the city is created by people with a range of national/global reference points. Chicago feels more like the big city you move to when you grow up in the midwest. Obviously there are many, many exceptions to these broad generalizations, but this is my own perspective.
The thing with the Rachel Shteir article that shocked me is how common these broad declarations about NY or LA or (probably other places) are, and no one bats an eye. Here it is entering into its second week as being a Big Deal.
@Daisy Razor Chicago makes Boston look like Paris, at least from a style perspective.
@km1312 I am from NY and moved to Chicago. I could not afford to be an adult and live in NY, so I live here. You will be shocked at the affordability (yes, Bucktown with yard = significantly less than walkup in Brooklyn). But, you get what you pay for and Chicago just ain't NY when it comes to culture/intellect/stuff going on. And things really are further apart - maybe not 3 buses, but a train and a bus, or a car ride. For me, the difference is cultural, and since you are from this area it might not be bad for you. I will never truly feel the culture here - I find it weird and cold and agree with Shteir about the blustery boosterism. And if you work in anything resembling education or social services, it can be extremely depressing.
Trying to come up with a clear summary. I guess a lot comes down to what you need most.
@PistolPackinMama I hear you (as an employed academic in chicago who would have a hard time surviving in NY), but to be clear, it seems that she is indeed saying that Chicago is a "crummy city with serious, serious problems." The fact that few people really deal with those problems is, in fact, her issue.
@OhMarie that one definitely got the guessing game started easy. The rest were a lot harder! but not all impossible!