From Winnipeg, a tech-support phone-monkey SUPERNERD. I have too many hobbies, and also a cat. (was temporarily Medani, but decided to keep my internet-self more coherent)

On The OkCupid Honesty Project: An Exercise in Truth-Telling

@Miss Maszkerádi your comments made me think that the really radical profile wold be one where the writer talks unapologetically about how awesome she is, and presents embarrassing info like "I think a lot about: what if I was an Avenger" neutrally, or spin it positively.

Posted on October 17, 2013 at 1:06 am 3

On The Glittery Fountain In the Sky, Staying Closeted For Your Career, and Lesbian FOMO

@Laura Grace@twitter wow, thank you for posting that link. I didn't know that was a thing, but it really explains some stuff I've been dealing with for years. (Especially the "hide the knives" part).

Posted on October 16, 2013 at 1:01 pm 0

On Our Squid, Ourselves

this is relevant to basically ALL of my interests. Thank you SO MUCH. This thread could be full of a hundred comments, all about how amazing it is, and it would not be enough comments. <3 u Natalie Eve Garrett-ie!

Posted on October 11, 2013 at 1:44 am 1

On What Is Most Millennial?

@Megasus THANK YOU! You just explained the wicked sense of deja-vu I used to get exploring the Ayeleid ruins in Oblivion!

Posted on September 25, 2013 at 1:07 am 0

On Friday Open Thread

@maebytonight It really sucks to be alone when what you want is to have your boyfriend with you, and you can't have that. It takes a while to adjust to having more solo time than you know what to do with, especially when you're hurt and lonely.
I've found a good tactic is to try and have 1 day every weekend where I hang out with 1 or 2 close friends. It's not the energy-draining kind of social event that end up making me feel even worse, but it does get me out of my own head a little bit and help me remember that people in my life do care about me, even when things are a bust romantically.

Posted on August 24, 2013 at 1:31 pm 1

On Friday Open Thread

@Okhate I might be kind of rude, but.... I don't OWE anyone my time or energy. If I know that I don't want to see him again, and he's angling for another date without coming out and asking, then he hasn't earned a response from me. Because then I'm hemming and hawing and overthinking about how exactly I need to phrase it, and then I second-guess everything after it's sent, and I just do NOT need any dude taking up that much space in my head unless I'm actually into him.
No response IS a response, to borrow a line from Captain Awkward. And on the flip side, if you engage in polite conversation then they get their hopes up until they screw up their courage and ask for a second date and then you have to shoot them down anyway.
Now, someone who is actually straightforward about what they want, I'll be like, "Best of luck, but sorry you are not for me" or something.

Posted on August 24, 2013 at 1:14 pm 2

On Friday Open Thread

@blueberry mary With dudes, a beard is a MUST. I like dudes who are kind of lanky, and I sometimes feel hypocritical about that because I have a fair amount of squish, but I like what I like. They have to have a face that clearly has spent a lot of time smiling. Piano-player hands make me swoon. And since my last boyfriend, I love curly coarse hair. I'm sure it's no fun to have, but he had like, poofy curly coarse hair past his shoulders and it was so fun to play with and felt so good on my hands. (his hair was longer than mine!)
For women, I like butchier, more masculine presenting women. Again, they have to look like they smile often. Dyed hair, piercings (both of which I also have) and the taller the better. Beyond that it's hard for me to say because I have less experience with the ladyfolk, and need more data.

Posted on August 24, 2013 at 12:52 pm 0

On Friday Open Thread

@Briony Fields I like it because although I read the hairpin I'm much more of a lurky person and don't often comment. Lots of 'Pinners follow each other so I feel like I can be more active in the community that way instead of having to think up smart things to say in the comments here (because that is not my strongest suit). Also it helps me keep in touch with a few friends who aren't close by anymore.
Con: what shows up on your dash is a bit like roulette. Unless you've installed an add-on that lets you filter things a bit more sometimes you get unexpected porn showing up on your dash. Checking tumblr at work is not recommended unless you're doing it on a smartphone.
btw my tumblr is maladydee.tumblr.com and I mostly reblog funny fandom stuff or pretty pictures of landscapes and stuff, with some social justice stuff thrown in the mix. what is everyone else's tumblr?

Posted on August 24, 2013 at 12:39 pm 0

On Who's the Squarest-Jawed of Them All?

I could see Ben Affleck doing a great Bruce Wayne. I dunno about Batman. I`m not sure if the narrow range he`s done is due to him being typecast and just not getting deeper roles, or if he actually CAN`T act outside of the range he`s done. I`ll give him a chance, if only because it must suck to be him right now, all excited about being Batman but seeing the internet raging about him.

Posted on August 24, 2013 at 3:09 am 0

On Who's the Squarest-Jawed of Them All?

@Onymous Gina Torres. She would be AMAZING and a complete badass.

Posted on August 24, 2013 at 3:08 am 0