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MmeLibrarian

Thirtysomething midwestern professional bookworm type.

By aphrabean on When Friends Have Babies

@catfoodandhairnets I think the people who want to be transformed by parenthood, who want their characters shifted in some magic way, are putting too great a burden on their kids. Is the other thing. What a great burden for a tiny person to bear.

Posted on October 23, 2013 at 1:04 pm 15

By aphrabean on When Friends Have Babies

@catfoodandhairnets I think the people who want to be transformed by parenthood, who want their characters shifted in some magic way, are putting too great a burden on their kids. Is the other thing. What a great burden for a tiny person to bear.

Posted on October 23, 2013 at 1:04 pm 15

By aphrabean on When Friends Have Babies

@catfoodandhairnets I think the people who want to be transformed by parenthood, who want their characters shifted in some magic way, are putting too great a burden on their kids. Is the other thing. What a great burden for a tiny person to bear.

Posted on October 23, 2013 at 1:04 pm 15

By aphrabean on When Friends Have Babies

@catfoodandhairnets I think the people who want to be transformed by parenthood, who want their characters shifted in some magic way, are putting too great a burden on their kids. Is the other thing. What a great burden for a tiny person to bear.

Posted on October 23, 2013 at 1:04 pm 15

By catfoodandhairnets on When Friends Have Babies

Oh yeah and the crying thing is hormones, not brain restructuring. It lasts a week or maybe 2.

Posted on October 23, 2013 at 12:50 pm 10

By TheBelleWitch on When Friends Have Babies

This makes me sad in a way I can't quite put my finger on. Having a baby changes your life, no doubt about that, but you're still you. The first weeks with the hormones and the whatnot make you feel like you might not be, but you really are. And like Slutface pointed out above, your old worries and concerns are still there, there's just new stuff, too.

I'm not sure what I want to say. Maybe it just makes me sad to think of my friends who haven't had kids yet looking at me like I'm an alien? Ugh. Everything in the world seems to conspire to split women into factions. Working moms, SAHM moms, attachment moms, cry-it-out moms, non-moms. I guess I'm happy the author and her friend have pushed through the awkwardness! But I wish we didn't segregate ourselves so much in the first place.

EDIT: OR WHAT HALLELUJAH SAID.

Posted on October 23, 2013 at 12:36 pm 9

By hallelujah on When Friends Have Babies

Hrm. So, becoming a parent is obviously a monumental change for most, especially in terms of priorities and responsibilities (except for the massively wealthy, I suppose.) But the idea that women must be inherently TRANSFORMED by motherhood always struck me as an insidious little patriarchal notion that seeks to inform us that we, on a basic level, are vessels first and humans second. I hope your relationship to your child is what you want it to be, but if you come out of it the same person you were before, that's ok too.

Posted on October 23, 2013 at 12:26 pm 20

By Slutface on When Friends Have Babies

"I’m traveling too much. I’m not writing enough. I can’t figure out where I want to live."

Believe it or not, people with children have these same worries.

Posted on October 23, 2013 at 12:13 pm 10

By ipomoea on 105 Years of Anne of Green Gables Covers

But the train station bench one from 1982 is the best, right? I mean, we can all agree that that version of the series is what we alternated with the Meagan Follows movies for oh, say, ten years of our lives?

Just me?

Posted on September 3, 2013 at 11:11 am 6

By coolallison on Friday Open Thread

@blueberry mary You need to get it together. *refreshes page to see new comments*

Posted on July 26, 2013 at 3:40 pm 6