By Everett Volksmarchscheißeflut@facebook on The bell hooks Hotline: For When You'd Rather Not Give Out Your Number
@Miss Ursula: Thank you. I find it incomprehensible that these folks believe that giving out a fake phone number is somehow a sign of immaturity or somehow a less viable response than "No, you can't have my phone number." No one (man or woman) is under any obligation to be completely forthright with a stranger, particularly in circumstances where that stranger is accosting them, making them feel uncomfortable, giving off bad vibes, or otherwise giving them the impression that handing out their phone number or outright rejection is a bad idea.
@beetnemesis If guys were mature enough to handle a refusal this service wouldn't be necessary.
@TN I know! It's like, thank you for showing me that my instincts about you being a creep were correct.
@KevinP Women aren't always explicit in their rejections because men have made it unsafe to do so. Does that fill in some missing pieces for you?
@KevinP maybe you're a nice guy so you don't get this. but some men are pushy, aggressive and scary when rejected. some will just insult you, call you stuck up or not that pretty anyways. some will see rejection as an invitation to grope or follow women. for every nice guy who takes rejection like a considerate human being, there is a guy with a temper and threats. this number is for those guys.
Are we for realzies hating on women for not handling unwanted male attention "maturely?" What in the fresh hell is all this?
How about teach boys to read social cues that a woman is not interested...you know, like when we say, "No, thank you."
@Erica Geissman@facebook I don't usually give out a fake number, but I have done so twice. The first time I did it because the guy hassled me and followed me home at night from the subway station when I told him no. I don't think that people are being immature- I think that people are feeling unsafe.
Because sometimes things get so dicey for women and girls that it's safer to just give a fake number than have a confrontation with some guy with hurt feeling or who just won't quit with the come on.
Twice in the last month I've had mystery texts from people who were clearly given my number in a situation like this. How I wish those ladies had had this option.
And as far as "being adults about this," when I've refused to give out my number in the past, I've been called all kinds of nasty names, even yelled at. I'm under no obligation to be nice or honest to such types.