cartoonist, illustrator, writer, old model
I have to admit to seeking validation from my sexual partners rather than romantic love (whether I was actually *aware* that I was doing it or not) in my twenties and even early thirties. I really don't think it's a crime. It's something many of us do, especially if we didn't have a great family life before we went out into the world. Sex is not just part of a relationship to many of us. It's a way we try to find ourselves somehow, albeit the wrong way. It takes a while to realize that it's passion for our work, for our mission in life, rather than passion for our lovers or our own bodies that make one a grown human.
And as for "quit whining, take her meds, and get a real job": I"m sorry, but I had a lot of people try to tell me that all the way into my 30s, and I very nearly did go on meds, and I did get a real job, and it was not for me. There are artists and writers and thinkers out there that don't get "real jobs." That will never get them, or be good at them even if they do. This is a world of different kinds of people.
As far as I'm concerned, Hannah is still trying to find her place in the world, and it'll be messy for her and for everyone whose life she touches until she gets her shit together, and that's life. We all have to live with each other somehow.
Hate to say it but I'm not wild about the long suffering Good Wife. It's a soap opera dressed up with an intelligent woman at its center. I don't like using intelligence as a decoration.
Well, but: condoms! And I'm not having sex without condoms. Where can I buy some copulins to put in my man's condom?
Also, do they just agree to do stuff, then not do it? Because my man will basically say yes to anything after sex. That doesn't mean he'll do it three days later. And no, we don't have sex every three days. I've got stuff to do. ;)
@Briony Fields I don't know. She did deliberately hide her beauty, thus making her character subversive. It also made it easier for her to disguise herself. To be beautiful conventionally was to be anonymous, if you recall. The boob job was part of the disguise, made her look less like a young girl (and perhaps less subject to men's pervy girl-fantasies, believe me, I've been there and it's gross), made her less remarkable looking when she was on the lam. I got the impression, too, that it was almost a way of copping out, retiring from being who she was. She was tired. Hell, I've gone totally conventional more than once, myself, before being myself again, just out of fatigue or necessity (employment).
I don't object as much to Lisbeth Salander as to other neurotic women characters written by men who seem to think their neuroses makes them attractively fragile. That bugs the shit out of me. Anyway, the whole Dragon Tattoo series was not realism at all, it was activism disguised as adventure. The guy wanted to make a point about all the shit he'd seen done to women during his career. No one would be interested if it was boring and not action-packed with a sort of comic book hero.
I mean, go ahead and read sociology books if you have the attention span. You're more likely to get fired up by the Dragon Tattoo.
I was pretty impressed with Mildred in "Mildred Pierce," actually. Especially considering the time it was written in.
I hope she has a lot of success, or at least enough to be able to eat cheese soon! :)
I didn't meet a lot of people in the business (back when I was the token 'ethnic' or 'ugly' model, myself -- yes I got told "we already have one 'special' model, I can confirm, she's right!) with her intelligence who lasted that long. It's a hard place for a thinking woman, so I wish her well and prosperity quickly!
This is so very Edith. Makes me smile.
Baba Yaga advice column, at last!