@OhMarie Pretty sure we're missing "Prepare the turkey and get it in the oven..." in the middle of those two sentences. I hope they fix it, or this poor LW will forget to cook his turkey!! :)
Can I use this space to VENT (I know) and ask for verbiage tips when dealing with rude people? I live in NYC, and every morning after I get off the subway at Times Square (for work), I have to climb up the subway stairs, where I dutifully stay in the right lane of people going up. This leaves the other side of the stairs for oncoming traffic, right? This seems logical to me, since it's a very narrow staircase and there is only room for two people across at once. Well, every morning while us right-siders are slowing climbing up in order, some people attempt to go around us and walk up the left side of the stairs. Then when someone tries to walk down, the "rusher" will push on into the normal right-lane walkers and make everyone squish/stop walking and slows down the whole progress. This infuriates me, because it's obvious that we're waiting in an organized "climbing" line for a reason, and these "go-arounders" think they are more important or in more of a rush to get to work? But I'm not sure how to deal. Yesterday I boxed a girl out when she tried to cut back over in front of me (due to oncoming walkers) and I said "It's a line!" but that wasn't right. (She then said some stuff about how happy I was and some other sarcasm that I couldn't really hear because I had headphones in.) I would love tips on the perfect, snappy one-liner that will communicate to the "go-arounders" that they need to get in line like everyone else. Advice? Other venters welcome!
I'll say it -- it turns my stomach when my peers unabashedly wallpaper their "walls" with selfies. I'm in my thirties, and I see it as a more forgivable form of expression for younger folks, but at our age, the overt self-involvement, preening, and begging for compliments and "likes" on one's appearance just disgusts me. I love cat pictures, I am OK with lots of food pictures, and sure, if you bought a new hat, show us, but when it's excessive fishy-faced pouting, all I can think is that "reeks of desperation" is an expression for a reason, and this is it.
@tealily I am in the same boat! I was a bridesmaid in two weddings shortly after college, but now I'm planning my wedding ten years later, and I don't keep in touch with these girls at all. They were great college friends but our lives have diverged wildly. I see their kid pictures on FB but don't have any interaction with them. We're also trying to keep a small guest list -- so do I invite them or not? I'm leaning towards not, but it is lingering in my mind...
@antipretty I'm in this boat! We've been together 2 1/2 years and got engaged this winter, but he's working full-time and then in an accelerated part-time MBA program, and I work full-time and then do most of the house chores and pet chores, and we try to schedule our sex appointments at least once a week but it's really difficult. I often feel like it's more of a concern for me, and that I'm the one bringing it up, and we've talked a few times about how I need him to talk about it too (even if we're not doing it, just mention that you wish we were! or something!), but I do know he's exhausted and stressed and frankly, I think his libido is a little lower than what I assumed men's should be. (Also, I was dating twenty-something-year-olds when I was in my twenties, and now that we're all in our thirties, that probably makes a difference, too.) Anyway, I tend to feel pretty bad about the infrequency of our sex, especially when peers talk about how often they're doing it in their marriage (which is supposed to be worse!), and I worry that this is what the rest of my life is going to be like, even though I know this is just a really stressful and highly-scheduled time. We are still affectionate and communicative and everything, it's just not possible when he gets home from work/class at 9:30 pm, then I feed him dinner, then I get ready for bed while he's eating, then we're both wiped out. Weekends are our only chances right now, and when those fill up, we're (not) screwed. Basically these comments are helping me not feel like a total failure, especially because sometimes I don't want to have sex either, but I feel like we SHOULD be doing it so then I get upset that we're not. So I'm hoping this is just the ebb part of things. Also I'm hoping to switch to an IUD this spring -- I'm sure the pill hormones aren't helping me.
Anyway, it's good to hear there are all sorts of relationships out there and that they're all OK.
@Biketastrophy I also want cheap, lower-sugar yogurt, but how? If I buy plain, I have to add stuff to it anyway to make it palatable. Let me know if you solve this problem! Also, I need fat-free or low-fat for my continual efforts to weigh less.
@Dirty Hands ...said no one ever. :)
Amazing! I want a personal dream interpreter! Last night I had one where (in the midst of a whole adventure) I jumped into the pool and sank to the bottom and couldn't push back up, as there was some super-strong gravity thing happening in that water. I struggled and finally started to wake up and realized (in the dream) the only way not to drown was to wake up. HOW CRAZY AM I?
@Don't Panic You can't tell them where you're going until you're inside! Then they legally have to take you anywhere in the five boroughs. (Yes, I've lived in Astoria for nine years.)
@Dimples This is all interesting -- the selective vision idea, especially. I will keep the advice in mind, and try to be patient. I have been doing the "before bed"-type requests so that he feels some agency, but he usually forgets if he doesn't do it right away, so I end up getting frustrated anyway after a few days, but it's a process. It helps to know that so many relationships have this "Odd Couple" dynamic, and that it's really about communication and considering the other person's perspective.