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Sweet baby deity (where my Carolyn Hax fans at?) this is tiresome. I'll never stop calling myself a feminist, but it's this kind of schoolyard-fight prose -- aggressively dismissive, broadly generalized, not at all sisterly or generous -- that makes me want to opt out of feminist discourse entirely. (Though not so much as to prevent me from commenting here, of course.) "Sandberg’s definition of feminism begins and ends with the notion that it’s all about gender equality within the existing social system. From this perspective, the structures of imperialist white supremacist capitalist patriarchy need not be challenged." Uh, no, that's not what Sandberg's definition of feminism is...at all. That's just the point A Hooks needed to get to your point B, which is all she's interested in talking about anyway -- her own, preexisting ideas.
Sandberg's copious research -- taken from actual scientific studies rather than feminist theorists, which Hooks complains about -- forces her to acknowledge that certain gender biases aren't going away anytime soon, such as the fact that both men and women respond negatively to a woman who doesn't "act nice." What she does with that information, which is to basically tell readers, 'Sorry, that's the research, so female workers still kind of need to play nice until they get enough power to not have to,' is the opposite of what Hooks seems to predicate her entire argument on. I'm not saying I agreed with everything in Lean In or that Sandberg doesn't deserve some criticism, but this is just beyond the pale. This is not constructive. Maybe I'm not understanding Hooks' brilliance because I'm unworthy of calling myself a real feminist, but seriously, who enjoys this?? Who out there gets anything from the spectacle of prominent feminists bitch-slapping each other in an endless cycle? Who comes away feeling inspired or proactive from this?
@chnellociraptor Fitz is the worst! He creeps me out whenever he's on my tv screen. Olivia tells him no, but he backs her into a wall and kisses her? Olivia tells her no and he shoves his hand up her skirt. Why do women fall over this rapey guy?
I got New Mexico. #4 in openness, #46 in extroversion, #1 in green chile enchiladas. Sounds about right.
@Scandyhoovian I lost a lot of weight in Finland too! I think it was walking five or six miles a day rather than all the Daim bars though, as I've had no luck replicating my results since.
@Scandyhoovian Ha! Maybe something like one--I mostly ate like one when I lived in Finland for two years, which is where the reindeer and rye or spelt bread and fruit soup consumption came in.
@iknowright Exactly. If you have a migraine, even if it's not the worst ever, you aren't able to post on Facebook about it.
Everyone, go right now and Google "In Bed" by Joan Didion. You can download the text for free.
I read it for the first time as a freshman in undergrad, 5 years after my first migraine, and it made me feel so much better, so much more understood, to read about my pain in her beautiful writing.
Also -- I hate the people who don't believe my migraines are as bad as they are, but I am also not a fan of the people who are like, "Ugh I have the worst migraine!" And they're still like, acting totally normal and fine? Please don't exaggerate your headache, because it makes those of us who puke, cry, press their heads into walls, and fall apart look less legitimate.
By yunkstahn on Which Name Is Weirder, Saxby Chambliss or Barkevious Mingo? The Answer May Tell You Whether or Not You're Racist
Idaho (and, I think, Utah) wins for weird/stupid names. http://jessica-jensen.blogspot.com/2013/04/names-2012.html
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A new AaQC *and* comment notifications are working? You're spoiling us, Mr Ambassador!
The Hairpin: Loidies foist.