MA in Canadian history who enjoys snacks, cleaning, sparkly things, and living in bizarre rural parts of Canada with her boyfriend and complaining about it.
@sophia_h God, no kidding. "My high-maintenance, high-energy dog continues to be high-energy and high-maintenance, even AFTER I have three kids! WHO WOULD HAVE THOUGHT?" Or the other side, "My cat is my baby! I pet him for an hour every night, he sleeps in my lap, I feed him a raw diet, and buy him expensive catnip toys. He sleeps on the pillow next to me! But now I have a baby and I can't give my cat this much attention anymore and he's acting out by pissing in the corner and shitting in my shoes. Now I will tell people DON'T GET CATS, THEY RUIN YOUR LIFE."
@Li'l Sebastian She is indeed just sixteen at the beginning of the book at the famous BBQ.
But the book spans almost twenty years, so you know, she grows a bit.
I do enjoy how this article points out the difference between ideals, and reality (which is frequently glossed over in discussions of Victorian womanhood because a lot of people tend to take poetry and literature in historical cupper middle class"--not upper class enough to not have to work for a living, but pretty well off for the middle class, enough to afford a large home befitting "sea captain" status (or whatever high-ranking sailor he was). And it's a uniquely East Coast phenomenon as well, but I think it's more thematically related to farm wives of the Midwest in the sense that "husband and wife are more equal partners in the running of the home." Except that on the farm, the husband may be out doing backbreaking heavy labour in the fields, while the wife is taking care of the cows/chickens/children/garden and the home. Because, you know, who else is going to do the work? In the case of the sea captain's wife, nobody is going to take care of the home and kids and affairs for her if she lies in bed moping about missing John, even if the Victorian "fainting angel" would probably pine away. In the case of the farmer's wife, the garden is going to go unweeded and the cows unmilked and the chickens eaten by hawks if she doesn't do the work.
This is already tl;dr but INTERESTING ARTICLE.
@Amphora I did not know that! But I'm glad to hear.
@polka dots vs stripes I think it depends, in very large amounts, on the individual diocese (for priests attached to a parish) or the order (for monks and brothers not attached to one). Some orders are more affluent than others (the Jesuits, for example, receive a lot more money in donations than my own high school order, the Viatorians, simply because they are more well-known, operate more schools, and have more alumni), which makes it easier for them to provide for their elderly members. So, you know, it varies EXTREMELY widely and it's hard to say.
I am going to be so interested to see if Pope Francis, in his effort to change up the Vatican and undo some of the damage Benedict did, makes strides towards appeasing nuns and brothers and other non-priest-clergy.
@blushingflower Nope, there really isn't. Brothers (of every order, Franciscan included) are pretty much on their own vis a vis retirement planning. At the order which ran my high school (among several other schools in South America and Central America), brothers basically planned to work and teach until they were no longer capable, because their retirement funds were extremely skimpy. Priests affiliated with a parish tend to get the lion's share of support, while priests attached to an order (Franciscan priests, whatever) are in the same boat as monks and nuns, depending on the order itself.
@celeec4@twitter THEY ARE ALL SO EXCELLENT AUGHGHG YOU GET TO READ THEM FOR THE FIRST TIME!!!!!!! Kazunomiya and Jahanara are both EXCELLENT. I thought Sondok was a little boring. Weetamoo was AWESOME.
@chnellociraptor WHATEVER, I am 25 goddamn years old and still read those like crazy. And they are all awesome. Marie Antoinette's? AWESOME. Catherine the Great? WISHED IT WAS LONGER. Anastasia? GREAT. Kaiulani of Hawaii I found kind of boring, the Lady of Palenque I lost interest in, but seriously, I loved them all so much.
But then I have also read every single Dear America book and Dear Canada book and the majority of the My Name is America books and I THINK I HAVE A PROBLEM.
@Citizen Christy I haven't, I don't live anywhere near one. I have only heard about them!