@LMac See, I liked that...both the Elizabeth Smart interview and this one, I mean, it's the interviewer's job to push someone to give unique insight and well within the interviewee to refuse to answer so I like that she isn't afraid to "go there."
On "Only white women have the privilege of reclaiming the word 'slut' without facing any real social penalty"
@Oliver St. John Mollusc I dunno, I want to reclaim it. Or rather, lessen its power as meaning anything other than "someone who fucks around." I've been "slutty" sometimes (seeking purely sexual relationships with multiple people) and I don't think that reflects poorly on me but that "slut" was the right descriptor minus the serious negative connotations associted with "loose" women throughout history.
@bowtiesarecool See, I was the snoozer in my relationship but eventually my husband expressed that it bugged him and I stopped. Well, I stopped and then slowly worked up to one snooze some mornings. But if I had it my way, I'd have an hour of 10 minutes snoozes! But like love and compromise has won out (so tell you men to knock it off!)
@LittleEdieBeale I've found that parents do not care and are possibly even relieved that I (who doesn't have or want kids) don't have milsetones to share! That stuff gets competitive fast and having different philosophies can get awkward. Just listen and maybe read some of the stuff they post on facebook (I know my mom friends are always steady posting articles about whatever parenting thing interests them) so you have some background knowledge. I feel like since I'm making the semi-unorthodox deicsion not to procreate, the least I can do a little reasearch since I'm only going to be more and more in the minority among people I know as most people do eventually make babies (but maybe I just like to research because I'm a librarian!)
@Terror of the 416 Indeed, alot of how I interacted with my friends who have kids depended on where I was in my life. Now that I'm fairly settled (despite not wanting kids myself) I feel more comfortable wrapping my head around all my mom friends and really do sincerely like hearing all the details because it's crazy, they developed a baby in their bodies, expelled it, and are responsible for its everything! While I don't want to do any of that stuff, it's all pretty fascinating!
@Gleemonex I love both of these comments. I think it's weird to try and make a feminist argument against the idea that being a parent changes you. I'm not a parent (no intentions of being one either) and I've not noticed this kind of visible shift in all my mom friends but something HAS to change internally, right? Like you described (beautifully) your whole concept of your family and your priorities has to shift or else, basically, you'd be a shit parent!
@Gilgongo As a non-child-wanter, it took me a long time to stop over-compensating by being really anti-kid which is really dumb because most people have kids and you're going to alienate everyone if you are obnoxious about it. But I realized that I can still think babies are cute, listen to my friends talk about their kids and births and all that (it can be pretty fascinating!)and still remain childfree. I was caught up in denying the stereotype of a woman loving babies and wanting to make one ASAP but what do I care if someone doesn't believe me that I don't want kids because I cooed at an infant? Are they going to forcibly inseminate me in my sleep?
@catfoodandhairnets I have known people who's hair texture changed from curly to striaght when they had a baby, I just thought that was the most interesting thing!
On "Laughing Through the Tears": Talking With Jessie Kahnweiler About Her Dark Comedy, Meet My Rapist
Wildly innaproraite -in the small thumbnail image I thought it wasa picture of Max Braverman, I clicked on it because I thought it was about Parenthood. BUT I wouldn't have clickedon it otherwise and I'm glad I did (and she really doesn't look like Max Braverman, just similar hair.)
@PrettyNicola Taco Bell has been killing me lately (more so than usual, as in the food is killing me.) Spicy Chicken Crunchwrap Supreme was my go-to then they got rid of it (I just can't with the ground beef there for some reason.) So I converted to the chicken burrito. But they changed the chicken! It tastes so weird no! And so I have nothing "main course" to eat there and one cannot live on Cheesy Fiesta Potatos alone (or can they?)