Beautiful, beautiful, beautiful.
"Likely nothing good can come from putting people together who inspire the resurrection of each other’s ghosts."
What a gorgeous sentence.
@Rookie (not the magazine) (not that there's anything wrong with that) This was on Salon: http://www.salon.com/2014/06/03/the_day_i_left_my_son_in_the_car/
I posted this link below before I saw your comment. The thing that creeped me out is that the person who called the police never spoke to her - they filmed her car while she was in the store, waited till she was gone, called the police, who traced the license plate to her mother's house, then they put out a warrant for this woman's arrest, all after the incident, without any harm or real danger to her child, was over. She was arrested and had to plead guilty to contributing to the negligence of a minor, or something.
(I will leave aside my thoughts that the entire incident happened because the author freely admits to being incapable of saying no to her four year old, which, great, I hope I never have to cross paths with your child in my lifetime.)
This piece at Salon, about a woman who was arrested for leaving her 4 year old in a car outside a store for a few minutes while she bought him a pair of headphones, is definitely worth a read:
It is super creepy - the stranger who called the cops filmed the woman's car, but never said anything to her, waited until she was gone, then called the police, who went to her mother's home, then to HER home, then put out a warrant for her arrest. All of this after the event, in which her kid was never actually in danger, transpired.
On Ask a Fancy Person: First Parties, Working for Free, and What to Do When Your Gym Is Crawling with Children
RE: leaving early, if you're going into a gym class knowing you're going to have to leave early, get a spot near the door and get out as unobtrusively as possible, and maybe also tell the instructor ahead of time. My gym has a weird and annoying habit of putting classes back to back, instead of leaving time in between, so people are always leaving Spin early to get to yoga, etc.
@commanderbanana Oh, I completely agree. I don't think calling the police was necessarily the wrong thing to do, but the police's reaction - to arrest and charge this woman - was way over the top. I'm 99% sure they wouldn't have done that if the mother was, say, not a WOC and was at a Pilates class or something.
This is...really insane, and I've tried to think about it from all the angles and still get nowhere. I played outside, alone, for about eight hours a day year-round for three years (homeschooled!) and every summer after that, starting at about age 7. And this was in a country where I didn't really speak the language until I was older.
Did the adult do the right thing? I don't know - I keep trying to think about what I would have done. Walk the kid to her mother's workplace (and get accused of trying to kidnap them?)? Leave them alone (and get sued when they fall into a river - Google this, it's a thing that happened)?
I don't necessarily think the adult did the wrong thing in calling the police, but it would be great if their response was to give this woman access to some resources, instead of arresting her.
Lenore Skenazy, where are you.
On "It took the college just 12 days to investigate the rape report, hold a hearing and clear the football players."
This is a civil rights issue.
@ShirleyFunke Wut wut wut?? Tell us more!
@eizverson22 < sarcasm > So true! Like civil rights or something, ugh. Can't wait till it goes out of style. sarcasm >
@isabelle bleu Do you have any thoughts on using something like Gwynnie Bee?