Yeah, the dad thing would be the deal breaker for me, same if he had slept with my mother. Yick.
the dog on a swing makes me happy.
bright lights and too much computer use trigger mine. ugh, i hate migraines.
@RK Fire dumpling crawl pinup!!! YES PLEASE.
@makingtrouble the letter sounds like it's rife with insecurities (not that we don't all have them). despite that TLC tells her the definition of a scrub, she's still not sure what one is or if her boyfriend is one.
then she says she's thinking of taking her friends' advice, which is collectively "it's great that we love each other so much, but sometimes that isn't enough, and they know it hurts but I have to move on."
that sounds like jerky advice to me. what decent person wouldn't tell you to talk things over with the man you're "desperately in love with" before breaking up with them?
no one knows what happens in a relationship except the two people actually in it. if you haven't yet had a real conversation about goals/the future/where is this going, then would you break up with someone because of what your friend thinks? what real friend would tell you that you should break up with someone without involving the person you are breaking up with in the conversation? a shitty friend, that's who.
so, i'm sorry, but not sorry. i think hating on her friends is justified.
my name is frighteningly close to the author's. i'm also becky a. but not a madam, just a lady.
@cosmia i second Olivia2.0 and Valley Girl... copious amounts of fine china, followed by a polynesian pearl diver.
@iceberg has he been to burning man?
LW never said that her alleged scrub doesn't have ambition. he could have ambition but just not able to find a job in his field.
if he really makes you happy, have a conversation about goals and whether or not he sees himself filling out paperwork at the free clinic and then think about his answers.
also, people who tell you definites about a relationship in which they aren't in, are assholes. you need better friends.