By nina! on Friday Open Thread

I GOT THE JOB! I will be moving to DC in November. It's related to health policy (yay!) and the team seems wonderful (double yay!). Now I just need to find housing and that's been a tiny bit stressful. (I have to interview... for housing?) So happy to be out of the unemployed limbo, though.

And thanks to the Pinners who gave the Boston recs last open thread. I'll definitely be relying on them when I go next week!

The bad? I realized that someone I thought was one of my best friends actually negs the things I like pretty often.

Posted on October 18, 2013 at 5:34 pm 7

By Rose Camelia on Friday Open Thread

@lasso tabasco Top Priority: Work (unless you have a trust fund). Not just a job, but also opportunities to change that job should the first one or two be disappointing. And can you afford to live there? Do your skills command a salary that covers the rent in that area? (Had to turn down a job near San Francisco because the increase in income was not as substantial as the increase in living expenses.)

Second Consideration: Culture. Will you feel like the only liberal in the neighborhood, for example? Culture includes transportation. I assume you're used to driving everywhere. Moving to Center City, Philadelphia, for example, would entail a huge change of lifestyle, selling your car or paying huge garaging fees and insurance premiums.

Also Important: Support Network. Even with the Internet, you still need help from people physically nearby, someone to take you home from outpatient surgery, for example. Friends or faith community can take that role, if family is not in that area.

~Lived in 10 states, so far. Moved more times than I've had birthdays.

Posted on October 18, 2013 at 4:37 pm 2

By chevyvan on Film Programming for the Bedroom

Fish Tank...the couch scene. AAAAHHH so so wrong and yet Fassie is so so hot!!

Posted on October 18, 2013 at 3:21 pm 3

By Barracuda on The Popularity Pie

I went to Burning Man a few years ago and had good time. Some things were not so good, but overall, yeah, it was good for me. I'd go again. It was fun to just walk or ride my bike everywhere and run into really far out art and people.

Also, I think anal is great. With lots of lube and a partner who listens, it can be amazing. Anal orgasms are a gorgeous thing.

I actually tried it the first time because I didn't want to have vaginal intercourse and thought, "Yeah, anal would be ok. It's not really sex." I loved it, it felt great and sometime thereafter I let go of that notion "It's not really sex, therefore it's ok" (thank you, strict religious upbringing).

Posted on September 27, 2013 at 12:41 pm 3

By Blushingflwr on "Maybe I needed to prove that I'm wife material. If he wanted 300 sandwiches, I’d give him 300 sandwiches"

SO MANY obnoxious things in this article!!!

"You’ve been up for 15 minutes and you haven’t made me a sandwich?" Really, unless that is laced with a healthy dose of sarcasm, how is that an okay thing to say to your partner?

"Honey, you’re 300 sandwiches away from an engagement ring!" Again, unless this is sarcastic, what the hell?

I can't help but feel like this is an extremely sarcastic dude with an extremely literal girlfriend, because that is the only thing that makes this okay.

I mean, the end is okay, with it being "oh, we are growing closer by sharing a love of food and cooking", but c'mon.

Posted on September 25, 2013 at 1:01 pm 3

By up cubed on "Maybe I needed to prove that I'm wife material. If he wanted 300 sandwiches, I’d give him 300 sandwiches"

@hungrybee: I'm thinking of a leggy sandwich served with a side of whisky, and for some reason women don't like to eat it, maybe they are jealous?

Posted on September 25, 2013 at 12:41 pm 10

By Blondsak on Interview with My Mom, the Scientist

"What was (are) your favorite thing(s) about being a mom?

Snuggling up in bed reading Old Yeller and Where the Red Fern Grows and crying with you at the end. Reading what you write; hearing you laugh with your boyfriend. Watching you run; you are so strong!"

This quote in particular (but really the entire interview) made me miss my mother like nothing else has in a long time. 10 years together was not long enough.

Moms, you're the best.

Posted on September 13, 2013 at 2:54 pm 3

By honey cowl on New Season of Downton Abbey to Include New “Risqué” Edith and a Cameo by Virginia Woolf

I hate Lady Edith. Lady Mary all day every day.

(This may out me as a bitter oldest child but I don't care.)

Posted on September 13, 2013 at 1:27 pm 4

By Lucienne on How Many Words Could You Read Aloud While Climaxing?

Hmm, there are more ... pearl-clutching reactions to this than I expected.

Posted on September 12, 2013 at 3:55 pm 11

By skycornerless on No Theoryheads Allowed: My 2000s & Wayne Koestenbaum

Way to make me want to go back to school. I very specifically have not wanted to do this for about 5 years.

Posted on September 3, 2013 at 5:40 pm 4