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By puncturedbicycle on "I Don't Fucking Care If You Like It"

Hang on, I thought Germaine Greer said that when I became a crone/hag or whatever I'd be done with this dudebro assessment bullshit. Now it goes on forfuckingever?

Posted on July 17, 2014 at 5:03 pm 2

By puncturedbicycle on "I Don't Fucking Care If You Like It"

@saul "the bear" berenson And of course women are mocked for not caring too, or being thought to not care, because if you don't hit your mark (too wrinkled/grey/frumpy etc) you are said to be telegraphing the message that you don't care, even though essentially you're just *being* someone with grey hair, wrinkles, etc. Whether you care or not is only known by you.

I was just thinking last night about 'signals' and 'messages' which women are credited with magically sending to men who are credited with passively receiving them and how upset it makes me.

'What message does it send' to be sexy/fat/angry/weak/wearing a bikini when you're not a size zero etc. 'What signals was she sending' by wearing/not wearing something, looking/not looking like something, doing/not doing whatever. Please just let me be a human fucking being who is not telegraphing magic thoughts.

I have no idea if I've made any sort of organised point but your comment made me feel all the feelings. So there they are. :-)

Thanks for the link. Off to read the article...

Posted on July 17, 2014 at 4:50 pm 2

By lyzl@twitter on "I Don't Fucking Care If You Like It"

Fuck yeah to this.

Posted on July 17, 2014 at 3:19 pm 1

By Lisa Frank on "I Don't Fucking Care If You Like It"

I think what really galls me about the kind of men who applaud women for having "a few dings" (like a car, because they are always comparing women to cars) but still being fuckable is that they seem to think her "experience" is an excuse for them to be callous. She's already been damaged by life right, so what's a little more?

Posted on July 17, 2014 at 12:47 pm 5

By Rookie (not the magazine) (not that there's anything wrong with that) on "I Don't Fucking Care If You Like It"

As someone who's been trying to ignore an ever-increasing feeling of "not good enough", reading this article was cathartic.

Posted on July 17, 2014 at 12:22 pm 2

By TheBelleWitch on In Support of Debra Harrell, Jailed for Letting Her 9-Year-Old Play Unsupervised in the Park

@philomene Except crime rates are down across the board.

There's also the point that while playing alone in the park may not be an ideal childcare situation, there is nothing less ideal than arresting a parent and putting her child in state custody.

Posted on July 15, 2014 at 6:10 pm 7

By pajamaralls on In Support of Debra Harrell, Jailed for Letting Her 9-Year-Old Play Unsupervised in the Park

More and more, I think it'd be refreshing to be explicitly told "Hey, minorities/women/low income people, this is designed specifically for you to fail. Carry on."

Posted on July 15, 2014 at 5:14 pm 8

By thinkin'things on My Nom de Peen: The Surprising Effects of a Male Pseudonym

I don't believe your male counterpart, your pseudo-peen, would think twice about doing whatever it takes to inch himself up the ladder of success.

Posted on July 10, 2014 at 1:13 pm 5

By Bostonienne on OK, Cupid?

Haters (as my mother would call them) be damned, I'm a believer in OKC. They kept showing and showing me this dude until I was like OK, OKCUPID, I'LL TALK TO HIM, GOD. Four and a half years later we're married, baby on the way. So.

Posted on July 10, 2014 at 11:32 am 4

By toodles on Jennifer Lawrence Responds to Esquire's Concerns About Her Drinking

@BriannaL You guys seem great!

Posted on May 2, 2014 at 3:27 pm 7