Just here to mention my usual Public Service Announcement for large-busted ladies: ENELL SPORTS BRAS. They change everything about everything. Totally immobilizing in a comfortable way! I am totally not an employee, I am just a person who is able to run and exercise now in ways that were super, super unpleasant pre-Enell.
@wearitcounts but knee-length skirt + knee-length boots = major no-no!!
@Mel!ssa Agreed! I am constantly mindboggled that even in the most friendly of forums, there is the implication, however veiled, that being single/unpregnant in one's early 30s is An Apt Punishment for pursuing career/fun/"drinking in bars" in one's 20s. How is this still a thing, you guys?
@sudden but inevitable betrayal This is, largely, the point made in the article - that the hookup culture, rather than the "settle down in a long-term relationship ASAP" culture, is borne largely of women prioritizing study/work/friendship over romantic relationships. She missed some things here and there, but overall I think it was really well done.
@simone eastbro I like eating rice cakes with regular butter and sometimes honey or hot sauce. YUM.
@OxfordComma There are definitely exceptions to everything. I can't eat tomatoes or avocados (both super healthy wonderful live-giving foods!) because they do horrible things to my digestion, and I have a friend who suffered for years before finding out she just could tolerate broccoli or other cruciferous vegetables. But situations like ours and yours are the exception, rather than the rule - and I didn't find out about the tomato/avocado thing until I'd adopted a veg-heavy, unprocessed diet. With all the white flour and sugar in the mix, I wasn't enough in touch with my body to k now what was doing what.
And I agree with you for the most part on the variety of healthy foods out there. But vegetables, really (as tolerated - and some folks really can't tolerate much, if any, raw veg, due to delicate digestion, so cooked is the answer there) are the most nutritious thing out there. In addition to its high sugar content, fruit has a relatively narrow profile of nutrients - mostly vitamin C plus various antioxidants. But vegetables have a very wide variety of vitamins and minerals, especially when you include mushrooms. Some folks don't need to eat grains. Some can't tolerate dairy, or fruit. But vegetables are a necessity across the board for the majority of people.
I also find that a lot of folks who try the Source & other "cleanse" type diets that *could* be healthy, tend to underestimate the amount of protein and fat they need to eat to be satisfied, end up spaced-out and sluggish as a result, and then swear off "healthy eating" or plant food-heavy diets as a result. This is a shame, and I wish these quacky diets didn't get so much attention.
@hotdog YES, definitely. The problem with the idea of a "cleanse" is that people who have been overindulging and generally living an unhealthful lifestyle think that they can just "reset" with a juice cleanse. Fasting, on the other hand - done more for mental than physical reasons - can be a healthy thing to do for the mind and the body once in awhile, if you're already in optimal health. "Cleanse" is simply a misleading term, that encourages folks to put themselves into harm's way with this idea that you can shortcut to good health by deprivation.
And now that this is Great American Novel-length, I may as well put in: unfortunately, "talking to a professional" won't always do you any good. I ran the gamut of gastroenterology specialists for a good decade-plus, and the only dietary recommendation I ever received from any of them, or my primary care physicians, has been "eat less spicy food". None of these doctors ever asked about my diet. And why would they? There's very little nutrition education involved in a western medical education, unless you're very lucky. I wasn't able to figure out that my excruciating stomach pain was food-related until an acupuncturist had me make a food diary, and I started changing the way I ate.
The best part about knowing how food affects your body? You can still choose to eat it. I know if I eat sugar at night, I'll feel thickheaded in the morning, but sometimes (often!), ice cream is worth it. Now I'm going to go have some ice cream.
The meals described here are totally unbalanced - maybe that's why you felt so shitty? I am not a hard-ass about it, but almost everyone I know would benefit from giving up refined sugar and most refined grains. Yes, everything turns into sugar in the body, but they are all metabolized differently and hit your bloodstream at different rates. Pure white refined sugar slams in there, hence sugar highs and crashes. Something like brown rice syrup, which is primarily maltose rather than fructose or sucrose is assimilated by the body much more slowly, which is why it tends not to cause the crashes.
I understand that there's a lot of "cleanse" and BS dietary advice out there, and people get crazy-evangelist about sketchy diet claims, but I have a close friend who gave up refined sugar and eliminated a lifetime problem with regular (weekly or more often), crippling migraines. (He'd been having them since age six.) I find that refined sugar, especially in combination with dairy, makes me break out. I have trouble sleeping when I eat refined sugar in the afternoon. My lifelong battle with stomach pain, which led to tons of medical tests but no conclusion, and never responded on a permanent basis to medication, has responded to dietary changes and dietary changes only.
The thing about the candida diet: yes, it's a little quacky, and yes, it sucks (though if you had been eating balanced, full meals - which is possible on the diet - you would have felt much better - who things almond butter + rice cakes are enough to eat for lunch??) , but going on it for a week or a month to try it out will do no lasting damage. That's the thing about dietary changes - you can try something for a few weeks or a month, you can juice fast for a couple of days, just to see what happens, without doing the long-term damage that medication can cause.
But quitting white sugar, cutting down on refined carbs and flours, not overeating fruit and other sweeteners, and making sure to eat a LOT of vegetables, raw and cooked, on a daily basis? This is a good idea for just about everybody. But most people who aren't eating this way don't want to hear it.
@PistolPackinMama Financial independence is important, I agree. My parents have separate bank accounts, and have been married 37 years. But they don't have "secret" bank accounts - they know where each other stand, financially. And they share all financial burdens. My mom's still working and my dad's retired. Should she refuse to pay for groceries? Letter of LW1 husband's law, she should.
@SexySadie Once a cheater, aways a cheater is such BS. Was I a cheater? Yep. Did I stop being one? Sure did. People do shitty, selfish things, then realize they were shitty and selfish, and stop doing them. Age and experience can do their work. It's definitely a good idea to proceed with caution when you're dealing with someone you know has cheated, but coming from the other side of the table - past cheaters are also people with hearts and consciences and minds. And in fact - I am not proud of this, but it's true - I started a relationship with someone by cheating, and we stayed together for six years, during which I did not cheat on that person. Yes, it was terrible that it had to start that way, and I was young and stupid to have done so. But, "once a cheater, always a cheater" is just...oversaid and simply not true.
@WaityKatie Non-judgey, non-smug non-drinkers are terrified that everybody who drinks feels the same way you do. I've found drinkers to be far more judgemental of non-drinkers than vice-versa (and I've been firmly on both sides of this divide). Personally, I have a really problematic relationship with alcohol (I quit for five years once), and as much as I hate to admit it, the social pressure is the main reason I continue drinking. I mean, I love drinking, too, but.