On Lies, Kissing Biblically, and Translucent Officewear
In response to the discussion above about number of sexual partners, I generally do ask new partners for their number, since I feel it's part of the healthy safe sex talk. I'm not ashamed to say that well, I've lost count, but it's somewhere in the 20+ range. In fact, I'm proud of it. I've had a lot of really good sex with a lot of really interesting people! It's just part of the safe sex talk. I don't care either way...except that I am not keen to sleep with virgins. Also a good litmus test...if anyone balks, then I know to show him or her to the door.
As far as LW4 goes, why is the Letter Writer making all these assumptions about someone else's relationship? As far as friends' relationships go, I stay out of it. I feel like no matter how close I am to someone, I can't ever assume to know the dynamics of his or her relationship(s). They could very well be in an open relationship, for goodness sake, don't be so meddling. And even if he is cheating, that's for them to deal with - not anyone else.
And get over the nipples, LW2, cause guess what? You have them too. And if people would quit freaking out about the human body that we've all got underneath our clothes, there wouldn't be such a goddamn oversexualization of it.
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On The Quiet Return of The 'Pinup Roundup
Can I go to one of these even if I have a love/hate relationship with the Hairpin?
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On Face Moles, "Perfection," and Shifting Dynamics
@daylightspool Oh dear, I mean, I just went through LW3's situation. Although I can relate to LW2 sort of right now.
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On Face Moles, "Perfection," and Shifting Dynamics
As for LW1, if the mole is somewhere "down there," I would just mention it when you first feel like hooking up might happen. "Hey, by the way, there's a mole on my pussy." And of the person doesn't care, they've already passed a sort of test, ya know? And then you know they are worth your time.
Ah! Totally went through LW2's situation - except, we did not survive the dynamic shift. We just moved to the Bay Area, except I am in the city and he was in the east bay (Although he's totally dropped off the face of the earth and I don't know where he is anymore?). Things had shifted. I wanted to talk. He shut down. We are done, but it's all right.
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On Choose Your Own Fatventure: Interview Clothes
Can we do a La Petite Aventure? For those of us shorter than petite length but still a half inch taller than the legal definition of a legal person? Yes, I know the joys of getting my clothing tailored, but sometimes the proportions are still off and it can turn a $30 pair of pants into a $60 pair. Also! Why are petite + plus size sections seemingly created by people with no sense of contemporary fashion? I want a goddamn skinny ass high waisted dress pant PLEASE.
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On End This Terrible Relationship You're In, Please
I did it! I ended it!
...but it hurts : {
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On Beauty Q&A: Grays, OTKs, and Sleeping in Rollers
Maybe because I am 27 and still mistaken for an 18 year old, but I rather appreciate my grey hairs and my wrinkles. When my hair is all grey I will dye it all pink.
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On Bike or Telecommute?
I would definitely pick cycling over sex. I'm in a longterm relationship...which means I'm not getting laid anyway! Hah!
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On Woman Not a Fan?
The Hairpin is the lesser of the two evils (Compared to Jezebel, which I loathe). But it's still evil and this:
"The internet, it turned out, was a place to make people like you: the world’s biggest slumber party, and the best place to trade tokens of slumber party intimacy — makeup tips, girl crushes, endless inside jokes."
So. Hard.
I like reading the Hairpin (Obviously), but yeah, I coud really do without the grooming/make up tips. Jezebel is like the old, white, upper class feminists of yore, who still have a person of color housekeeper. Hairpin suffers just a touch of manic pixie, but at least acknowledges orientations, identities, etc outside of straight white and cis (Without it seeming like a charity project).
I'm not saying a feminist has to not shave her legs (I am, actually....), but I'd actually dig a little more subversion in my Inter-web distractions. I mean, it's gooooood that there are female dominated internet presences (?), but sometimes I wish we'd all get together and gang up to make the patriarchy miserable in more aggressive ways instead of, oh, I don't know, talking about buying cute pajamas to wear around your boyfriend.
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On Breaking Up Is Hard to Do With Dignity
HOW DID YOU KNOW THIS IS EXACTLY WHAT I AM DOING RIGHT NOW?!