@crosberg As others have already pointed out, it's not okay to victimize children, even if you're "only looking." Anyone who engages in such fantasies is contributing to an industry that exploits and harms children. That makes them morally and criminally culpable, even if they've never physically harmed a child in person.
@harebell To be clear, I'm not demanding the author take action against her father. I simply want people to know that possessing or downloading child pornography is a crime and if anyone finds him/herself in a similar situation, they absolutely can alert the authorities.
For anyone reading this who might need this information, it IS illegal to possess child pornography. Even if he didn't take the pictures himself, simply storing the files on his computer, receiving them as downloads, accessing them on websites etc is all illegal under federal law. You can report these things to local police and to your state attorney general. Again, just posting this in case anyone reading this article is in a similar situation and doesn't know what to do.
I had that exact same set of ballerina stickers when I was little! I adored them and used them very judiciously. You were greatly loved if you received art from me graced with the green ballerina.
@queenofbithynia Yea this made me really uncomfortable. I mean I totally get the weiner/sausage metaphor and how food=sex etc etc. But the repeated references to the horror of getting fat from one hot dog (really? Your jeans were tight after eating ONE hot dog??) made me feel really icky. The entire essay seems filled with fat-phobia. I'm really surprised to read this on the 'pin.
@olivebee My engagement ring is also a sapphire in a platinum setting, with teeny tiny diamonds. We found it at an antique jewelery shop. I specifically wanted a vintage piece because they are unique, ethical and have a story and history. Mine came from an estate in New Orleans, which happens to be where my mother was born. Vintage and estate jewelers have such beautiful and unique pieces.
My fiance has ten brothers and sisters and 35 nieces and nephews. If they stay alive (read: don't kill each other) and stay talking, it'll be a festivus miracle! :)
@wee_ramekin Yes, but pleeeease tell me you've seen the 1940 version with Sir Lawrence Olivier and Greer Garson. It has my favorite interpretation of Lady Catherine de Bourgh!
This is, by far, the most moving and important piece I've read on the Hairpin in quite some time. Many thanks to Maya for sharing her story.
Is it just me, or did he kinda come across as an a-hole? I mean I really got the impression he was talking down to the interviewer and didn't respect her or her questions. Maybe I'm reading too much into his always-correcting-her/amending-her responses.