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The Pubic Issue, Non-Monosexuality 101, and The Cool Gay Auntie

So... I need pubic hair advice. I've been considering sleeping with women, and in my imagining of it, there's a lot more oral sex than I've typically had with men. Which I'm totally down for, but I'm really turned off by the idea of such close encounters with hair around the labia on myself or my partner. In your experience, do most queer chicks shave/wax for this reason? Or is this an aversion I'll eventually get over if I decide I'm queer? This has weirdly been a big mental hurdle for me. READ MORE

Coming Out Late In the Game, Embracing the Inner Bridezilla, and Recharging Your Libido

I'm in recovery from a year and a half of sleeping with someone who manipulated me into doing things I wasn't comfortable with, told me I was worthless, decided he didn't want to be exclusive (I didn't either) but deserved to know in explicit detail about any hookups I had, and didn't listen when I said no about anything ever. So he was bad for me, and I said goodbye four months ago and haven't talked to him since. READ MORE

Talking to Kelly Lewis, Professional Solo Female Traveler

Kelly Lewis is the founder of Go! Girl Guides, a company that writes and publishes guidebooks for solo female travelers, as well as a beloved friend of mine. READ MORE

Befriending Your Best Friend's Girlfriend and Resisting the "One True Sex Act"

I'm polyamorous, and live with my partner, and have a long distance relationship with someone I love dearly. I've been with my partner for almost three years, and we are in a very solid, happy place. My long-distance sweetie and I have had an intense Thing happening since this past April—so about five months, all of it online (we lived in the same town years ago, but have lived in different parts of the country for the last few years.) READ MORE

The Glittery Fountain In the Sky, Staying Closeted For Your Career, and Lesbian FOMO

I feel like, abruptly and without warning, my sexuality has changed from a basically heterosexual girl (with some twinges of attraction towards women), to a homosexual girl (with some twinges towards men). The 'Are you a lesbian?' videos and articles I've Googled have mentioned that some people are not born gay, but these seem to be uniformly written by born-gay folks. I'm really uncomfortable with this change and its abruptness, and have a few questions. Is sexuality changing a thing? READ MORE

Boy-Crazy But Curious, Dating While Disabled, and Introducing Parents to Your "New Norm"

I've always identified, both to myself and to others, as straight. There were times when I thought about other girls as a young girl, but then read in some magazine or other that this was "totally normal! Just a passing crushphase!" and I brushed it off, as seems to have happened to some other readers. READ MORE

Survival Prognoses for Characters on Orange is the New Black If They Were Instead Characters on Game of Thrones

Piper Chapman: Attempts to endear herself to the Queen of Thorns by providing her with artisanal soaps—rose-scented, of course. Cersei observes this gesture and, believing Piper to be allied with the Tyrells and disloyal to the crown, has her accused of treason and executed. Total survival time: 8 days (3 spent in prison awaiting trial). READ MORE

Dating a Closeted Bi Guy, Discovering a Boob Fetish, and Sleeping With Twins

So there's this guy that I (a hetero, female college student) have been unofficially seeing for about two months, not exclusively. We recently had a conversation that could lead to this becoming a more serious relationship, but we're taking a break for the summer because we'll be in different places. Here's where this gets messy: a friend intimated to me, shortly after the aforementioned DTR convo, that this guy is, in fact, gay. He has or has had a profile on an online hookup site for the gay community, and has slept with other guys. I had absolutely no idea about any of this (yikes!), and I can't confirm that he has slept with other girls, having not yet gotten that far in the relationship ourselves. It appears that he is keeping this information extremely private, and I think it's safe to say he would be displeased to discover that I have this information, especially because I got it from an outside source. READ MORE

Lesbian Vocabulary, U-Hauls, and the Family That Comes Out Together

Just so you know, I'm straight. You're the best person to help me because I need to "come out" to my ultra-conservative, evangelical Christian family. I have not been involved in their religion in many years, but I was raised in it. Since becoming an adult and leaving the church, I have some family members who have become distant or cold, some who actively try to save me, and some who treat me like they always have. My entire extended family belongs to this religion. READ MORE

Weird Boyfriends and Height Differences

My boyfriend and I have been together for just over a year and a half and have lived together since last June. For the most part, things are really great between us. We're both 29. When I was 20 and 21, I kissed other girls (I was drunk both times) and I had a good time but it didn't go further than kissing. While I like looking at pretty women, I have never wanted to have sex with a woman. My boyfriend found some pictures of me kissing a girl (from when I was 21) and for a while didn't believe me when I told him there was nothing beyond the pictures. When he finally accepted that I was telling the truth, he became and is really disappointed. He really wanted me to have fooled around with a woman! He seems a bit different towards me now and says he is not as attracted to me. How do I help (or how does he help himself) get over his disappointment? He seems kind of obsessed with this and I want to help him understand that it doesn't matter that I haven't fooled around with a woman and that that fact shouldn't affect how he sees me. Do you have any suggestions for me/us? Thank you!! READ MORE