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Retroactive Heartbreaks, Above-Board Romances, and Constant Ultraserious Shouting About Things

I'm a twenty-five year old woman who is thinking about trying to date women. I've always had what I'm realizing were crushes on women, but have never talked about or acted on them. READ MORE

Precious Emotional Energy, Getting a Haircut, and The Gay Man's Crush-o-Meter

Last winter I went to an art museum with my mom and girlfriend. We ran into a lady who frequented my place of work (retail). We'd always been friendly and had known each other (in a work-customer relationship way) for a few years. I’ll call her "Jane". Jane approached us to say hi, and I introduced my girlfriend. READ MORE

Keeping it in Your Professional Pants, "The Window," and Telepathic Hints

I have such a crush on my intern. I'm not her supervisor, though I'm a senior person on a team that she is also on, so I'm in a leadership role in relation to her. I'm only two years older than she is. She is so ambiguously queer I can't even stand it. We either have extremely subtle, almost-undetectable queer-girl sexy eye contact going on, or I am *totally imagining everything.* When she leaves our office at the end of the school year, can I ask her out? TBH I don't actually want to date her, just make out with her. I really don't want to be a creep, or be seriously unprofessional, or hurt her in any way. If the answer is "This is a horrible idea; keep it in your pants," could you please advise on how I am supposed to do any work when her hair is SO shiny and she sits RIGHT next to me? READ MORE

The "Queerosphere," Letting Terrible Dog Owners Lie, And Smelly Business

I'm 25 and recently started to own the fact that I'm bi. I’ve never dated a lady, but have really really wanted to push a few up against a wall and kiss them (with their consent, of course). The only people who know about those urges are a couple of dudes I’ve dated. One thought it was hilarious and liked to laugh at these delusions of my younger self (and we were together four years—hoo boy). Another helped me accept those feelings as legitimate. I’m really excited to explore the queerosphere but still figuring out how. Online dating? Hang around in the local lesbian ‘hood with a conversation-starting book and welcoming demeanor? How upfront do I have to be about having never dated a woman before? READ MORE

"Rebounding," Internet Dating, and Oppressive Monogamous Conditioning

I’m a queer man who’s just come out on the other side of a 5-year relationship (and being in my early 20's, that is a major chunk of my life) with a wonderful man whom I still very much care about, but it was time to move on and make choices for myself and be alone for a bit. We only officially broke up in the past week and a half, but I had been thinking about it and dealing with the possibility of the break up for a while longer than that time. READ MORE

How to Have a Boyfriend, "Advanced Dating," and Girls With Short Hair

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The Zombie Apocalypse, "Shark Week," and My Great-Grandmother’s Vengeful Ghost Screams

My girlfriend and I have been going through a rough patch lately. In fact, we were on the verge of breaking up, then we decided to stick it out, but then the zombie apocalypse broke loose and suddenly we both had a lot on our plate and not much energy left over to process and get our relationship back on track. I just found out that she was bitten by a zombie, but has been covering up the wound (which is about two days old and looks really nasty) while she tries to figure out a way to cure the virus. I feel betrayed by the fact that she withheld this information from me, especially when she knew that one of the biggest issues in our relationship was her being unwilling to share. Is there any hope for us, or should I just cut her head off and move on? READ MORE

"Too Many" Straight Friends, Hiding Your Sex Tools, and Life in the Queer Lane

I had a breakup recently from a relationship that meant a lot to me. It was quick and intense, but I feel absolutely hurt and broken-hearted. During our breakup fight, she accused me of having too many straight friends (her exact words: "all your friends are straight!"). Even though I'm pained from the breakup as a whole, this one statement has really stuck with me. READ MORE

Big Lesbian Feelings, Fearful Mothers, and Proper Pronouns

I went through a big deal breakup a month ago and am now attempting casual dating/hooking up. How/when should I tell people I'm not looking for an actual relationship? Any other casual dating advice you might have would be very welcome. READ MORE

Can Femmes Prefer Femmes, Hating Your GF's Therapist, Am I Heterosexual, and LDRs

My surface question is this: How common, really, is the sort of stereotypical "femme/butch" dynamic in female same-sex relationships? READ MORE