What blows my mind about this is that with any other crime, justice is still sought for the victim regardless of their actions leading up to the crime (with unfortunate differences in the intensity of the investigation due to factors of race, income, etc, but let's put that aside for the moment).
If I get murdered, the police will investigate, even if I was walking in a bad neighbourhood after dark. If someone robs my house, the police will still investigate, even if I left my door unlocked. If someone empties my bank account, the police will still investigate, even if I gave my debit card number to a shady Craigslist poster. So why the fuck would the police not investigate a rape even if the victim was drunk? There are certainly things you can do to guard your safety, and not getting blackout drunk is one of them, but it doesn't matter if I never leave my house after dark, or lock all my doors, or never give out my debit card number - sometimes shit still happens and every victim deserves the same consideration.
@j-i-a LOOK AT THE TEENY TONGUE
By roadtrips on The Glittery Fountain In the Sky, Staying Closeted For Your Career, and Lesbian FOMO
@iceberg Reading between the lines, it seems to me that the LW either has had or is anticipating having a conversation in which they identify themselves as queer and bi-gender/genderfluid and the person to whom they are speaking says "what does that mean?" and the simplest way to answer the question is (as the LW wrote) "yes, I'm attracted to men, but only if they are sexually submissive and can treat me like another man in the bedroom." The LW said themselves that their identities are all tangled up in each other and difficult to describe. It would be great if the LW could come out as queer and bi-gender/genderfluid and the response would generally be a to the point, "OK. What pronoun do you prefer?" and case closed. But all sorts of people ask all sorts of invasive questions, and it sounds like the LW is trying to find a way to present and ultimately answer questions about their identity in a direct, non-exhausting way that also doesn't effect their professional life (and for this I have no answer).
@elenachicago And A+ alt-text.
A+ tags, Jia.
By j-i-a on "And Peggy Paula let him, she let him, because if no one is there to touch you are you even really there?"
Right you guys??? So glad ya dig
By katiemcgillicuddy on "And Peggy Paula let him, she let him, because if no one is there to touch you are you even really there?"
I'd like to comment but I am too busy trying to pick myself off the floor because, JESUS.
That does sound like a perfect night. I freely admit that I masturbate as much as possible (nearly every time I find myself home alone). It's most rewarding form of free entertainment!
@Anita Ham Sandwich Let's touch each other's boobs just to see how it feels.
@iceberg What about something like "we [the kids] have latino ancestry in our family" if you're comfortable with them thinking about their biological history as "family" in a generic sense? If that's your approach philosophically, I guess you could even describe it as latino heritage in "your family."