@Third Wave Housewife I don't get the reading/doing anything but pooping. WHY do you wish to sit atop your poo and accompanying stank for 20 minutes? How is that relaxing/pleasurable? It's poo stank!
@Manatee I know the feeling, Honey. I would have the HARDEST time not blowing up at family (especially) when I was single and they'd ask, "so are you seeing anyone?' Questions like that just reinforced the notion that I was not WHOLE without an SO, that I as an individual making it on my own had no value.. it fucking sucks.
But girl, I didn't meet Mr. Lids til I was 35, married him at 36 and am now preggers.. (I'll be 38 when mini-lids is born), so hang in there and keep being awesome! It's hard to keep your head up, I know, but I have a very good feeling that you're a tough one!
@mayonegg I am too! Read a story (somewhere?) where a little girl with the middle name Ann, knowing full well that her entire name meant business, tried to get her father's attention. When he didn't respond the first time, she hollered at him, "Daddy Ann!"
@Bebe & WaityKatie - have you tried cognitive behavioral therapy? (buy a book, don't necessarily need a therapist). I have had this problem and basically you learn how to shut the monkey brain up! That might not be your issue and I don't mean to presume, but I can certainly go round and round, fretting over all kinds of things - usually the past or the future. But brain training! This works, though you do have to work at it. When all else fails, I'll get in the most comfortable position I can, silence the worrywart/inner critic and simply do the multiplication tables very slowly, slowing my breathing too. I rarely get past 7.
@Lucia Martinez seconded
@DrFeelGood Yes! I often say, "thank God I never have to date again!". That is, the meet-cute/internet/email exchanges and "so where'd you grow up" and "where'd you go to school?" and "how many sibs do you have?" and all that trite, job interview-esque b.s. - ugh. Never. again.
I will try to very hard to be there! So glad to see a D-town meet up!