Does her Prancersising in the first part of that video remind anyone else of "Dirty Dancing"?? Specifically, the montage that has Baby practicing her moves by herself.
@martinipie Which product do you use?? I have been considering doing this, but ugh, I don't know, I'm still vaguely threatened/put off by the idea.
@cuminafterall Some parts made me cringe a little, but my love for Messud's writing style ultimately propelled me through the book's end. And overall, I really liked it! Definitely one of the better "9/11 novels" (ugh, that term, but it's useful!), and it still strikes me as powerful years after its publication. (A lot of 9/11-themed stuff doesn't age well, I think.)
In any case, I'll definitely be picking up "The Woman Upstairs."
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@rimy I don't want to think they DID do it, but if they did, then that's that, you know? This makes me think of certain news outlets' coverage of the Steubenville trial. "But these boys had promising lives ahead!"
It's indeed sad that two young men (and they are men) may have been capable of wreaking such havoc, and I'm sad for innocent family members who have to endure this pain on their behalf. But if these men were the perpetrators, I'm even sadder for those whose lives they destroyed.
@z(oo)mm That's a bit of a presumptuous attitude in itself, no? And I'm someone who hates (hates!) getting phone calls at work when an email would suffice.
At many offices I've been in, the divide seems to be more generational. The younger people can't stand phone calls, while older workers will rely on them to a certain extent. The way to NOT be "rude and presumptuous"? Accept that not everyone shares your favorite mode of communication, and that some older people (and younger ones too) may not have great emailing skills.
Would it be more convenient if everyone were on the same page? Yep. But in most settings, it's helpful to accommodate others who may not have the same skills as you.
@lasso tabasco Haha I know right? Because relying on a man to shape you into an adult is a waaaaay more reasonable plan.
I have so much to say about this, but the main thing is: Thank you for sharing it! You are right in that the author does not necessarily seem like the nicest person (I mean, wow), but that doesn't invalidate her viewpoint.
This article is a great reminder that children are not for everyone. Even if all your friends want them! Even if your husband wants them! (Although ideally, you would not get married to someone who has drastically different hopes regarding procreation? Maybe that's the true lesson to take here.)
@S. Elizabeth Exactly. This was her choice to make, but I'm baffled as to how she assumes her thinking should automatically apply to everyone else.
"On paper, our unmarried peers looked more carefree. But many of them also relied on their parents to supplement their income, drove home for long weekends and holidays, or stayed on their parents’ health insurance and cellphone plans (even though they had decent jobs!). I put David on my health insurance. We bought our own family cellphone plan and Netflix account."
How would anyone take this as a valid argument for marrying young? Newsflash: You can be in your 20s and still pay for your own insurance, Netflix account and cellphone -- all without the aid of a husband! I'm living proof.
If the writer needed a spouse to help her grow into a mature adult, well, that's her issue.
I agree that "American Beauty" is not all it was once cracked up to be, but it seems the backlash against it has kind of become trendy, in a way, and that's probably a bit unfair too?
In any case: Who was Thora in "Anywhere But Here"?! One of my guiltiest '90s-movie pleasures right there.