On All Analyze the Queen

@queenofbithynia If you're going to dismiss all criticisms of women who don't identify as feminist as "word-based", why put the (then also "word-based") pressure on women to identify as feminist? What is so impossibly hard about respecting other people's labels and focusing more on their actual beliefs and words and actions than on their labels?

Posted on May 22, 2013 at 3:56 pm 1

On How to Behave on Your Online Date: A Bartender’s Perspective

@Slapfight Yeah, it's the "Explanations" post. You can still hate-read it and thumbs-up things, though.

Posted on May 20, 2013 at 4:42 pm 4

On How to Behave on Your Online Date: A Bartender’s Perspective

@themmases See, I think it's really creepy to suggest that a man buying you a gin & tonic somehow makes him your "new dad", even though the entire point of meeting up with this new gentleman is to see if you want to do things to him you would never, ever, ever in a million years do with your dad.* Plus, while some women, somewhere might need a reminder, women as a group do not. It's rather patronizing.

*Oh, god, I hope.

Posted on May 20, 2013 at 4:11 pm 5

On How to Behave on Your Online Date: A Bartender’s Perspective

@HunnyBee Maybe everyone's just tired and worn out from last week's Mansplaining, and are now just like "ugh, whatever, I'll just visit The Hairpin less."

Posted on May 20, 2013 at 4:00 pm 5

On Friday Open Thread

@YoungLeafedJune You forgot how all the men in Boulder also like to rock climb, ski, and kayak - anything outside!! (Maybe it's just that there's actually only one single man in Boulder, and he just creates like a thousand profiles?)

No, but for real - change your location to Denver, look for men in Denver. Everyone has their own radius they cannot date outside of, but at least look at the men in Westminster and Arvada. The portion of men who would rather stay inside and watch Game of Thrones goes up quite a bit.

Posted on May 18, 2013 at 12:41 am 1

On Daisy, You're a Drip, Dear: Detestable Literary Characters Who Are Not Technically Villains

@bitzyboozer I think anyone who argues the book is *bad* because the characters are unlikeable is missing the point, but people who dislike it because the characters are unlikeable aren't necessarily arguing that and very well might just have a different relationship to reading fiction than you do. (Like me. I hated reading Gatsby, and I think it's well-written, but I hate reading about horrible people who do not even have the decency to be real.)

Posted on May 17, 2013 at 9:15 pm 0

On Recreational Flirting and Other People's LDRs

LW1, I totally disagree with AQC. That stuff bugs me so much, and I think it's appropriative as hell. Like, tee-hee, we spend so much time together we're like lesbian lovers!! (No, no you are not - spending time together and having a deep emotional bond is not actually what makes you lesbian lovers, despite what the common desexualized but erotic depiction of lesbians might have you believe, it tends to be a lot more about sticking your tongue and fingers in another woman's pussy.) It must be so nice to be able to grope each other in public and list your bff as your "wife" on Facebook publicly without having to worry about experiencing discrimination because of it, or having to navigate stereotype threat. And, at least in my experience, it's not true that straight women would act the same way if they knew you were straight; instead, the second a queer lady joins in, now it is awkward as fuuuuuck and the conversation quickly turns to work or the weather or something.

However, other than being able to validate your feelings of intense aggravation, I have nothing practical to offer you. I have not figured out a way to point it out and call it out. Sorry.

Posted on May 17, 2013 at 2:33 pm 9

On 10 Things My Yoga Instructor Said That Almost Made Me Quit Yoga

@Danzig! Hahaha, I'm pretty sure they're not open anymore. I could be wrong though; I was only 15 when I went (it's so wonderful to be a 15 year old girl, go to yoga for the first time, and have a strange woman talk about your vulva with other strange women...) so who knows.

Posted on May 16, 2013 at 7:49 pm 0

On 10 Things My Yoga Instructor Said That Almost Made Me Quit Yoga

"Are there any men here today? No? Good. Now, reach up, through your vulva..."

Posted on May 16, 2013 at 5:25 pm 19

On Queens in History: Tomyris

Oh, I am in love with this. Post more of this stuff, please!!

Posted on May 16, 2013 at 1:09 pm 0