On "The tragedy of Obama's presidency is that he's too much of a Ravenclaw and not enough of a Gryffindor."
@RK Fire Sheriff Joe Arpaio. I don't even live in Arizona and that guy terrifies the shit out of me.
This: "The people who do them certainly think so, or have attained that magical state in which you do not care about being cool at all." is pretty much my goal in life.
and this: "There are people who respond to other people having fun in ways that are alien to them with inexplicable rage and contempt. This is, honestly, one of the worst things you can do to yourself as a person of something resembling character." is also so true.
The greatest thing about getting older is really being able to internalize that shit. So much of the shittiness of my teens and early twenties was due to paying attention to what other people think. I may not be cool, but being aggressively uncool is so much more fun than being sort of maybe if I tried really hard a little cool ever was.
@redheaded&crazy yeah, it is either Biter or Rorge that doesn't have a nose. and it's driving me nuts that I can't remember which one.
@smartastic late twenties/early thirties. I have heard the thing about later sexual peak and in some cases this has been the issue, but the "he won't put out" conversation has been happening since college. I think to some degree my female friends are probably more comfortable complaining about this to me than my male friends, but not entirely.
It frustrates me because as much as I like bashing stereotypes, having it be portrayed as guys are the ones who always want sex and women are the ones saying no makes EVERYONE feel broken. Libido mismatches or stress or inertia related dropoffs are very normal, but portraying it as a gender thing makes both men and women feel like they're failing when it goes the other way.
@itiresias my friends group is VERY open about this stuff and... yeah, I am always so confused when I see these articles about how men want sex more than their female partners. Based on a fair amount of anecdotal evidence, the opposite is much more common.
@kate.m I very much believe in intuitive eating. It took me a couple of years to really get from disordered/orthorexic food thought patterns to really embracing intuitive eating, but I'm so much happier. I'm convinced that tuning out the destructive messages telling us not to trust our bodies and to overlay food with some sort of ridiculous moral weight is much, much harder and requires much more willpower than buying into the diet and deprivation mentality. But it is so worth it - I am so much more in tune with my body and I can tell what I need to eat when and how much of it. I still have to fight occasional relapses of destructive thinking, but for the most part I am happier and healthier than I used to be.
@TheJacqueline I was just going to say! I haven't had carob in a long time since it's kind of hard to find now that the food overlords have decided that chocolate is healthy. But I was allowed to have both on occasion as a kid and I actually really like the taste of carob as long as I'm not trying to pretend that it's chocolate.
@werewolfbarmitzvah ooo I would be curious about that, too. I don't have much experience with casserole-like things, but was wondering if this would work with chicken. Not that I dislike fish - but I think chicken (or a vegetarian protein) would be more likely to last for a week's worth of lunch and I want to maximize my laziness here.
@LeafySeaDragon I went through a period of pretty severe orthorexia and... yep. He sounds like my internal monologue when I feel like I have everything calibrated perfectly to be as healthy as possible in as few calories as possible. I felt fucking superhuman until I blew a gasket when too much olive oil ended up in the saute pan.